Monday, November 28, 2011

Make Up A Sweet New Look

Ignore the jellybeans and chocolate eggs. You can have something sweet this season that is not sugary: trend-right, candy-colored makeup.
The cosmetic industry is turning to candy for inspiration this season. Cheerful hues give off a youthful happy vibe and brightens up any dreary day.
Everyone wants a new look or a pick-me-up, these pastel colors work really well for that. It's a pop of something fun, but it's not too much, not too scary. It's a safe experiment.
We saw a lot of peach and pinks on the fashion runways, and they already have made it to the street. It's a very girlie, feminine look.
And the best part? No sugar high.
Some tips on how to wear these shades:
Pick one area to play up, either the eyes, lips or cheeks, says Dominic Driguglio, Stila celebrity makeup artist, but do not do it all at once. You will get the brightest pop on your eyes, he says.
Use a bright blue or green shadow on the lid, no eyeliner and lots of black mascara, he says, or, alternatively, you can do a mix of pink, purple and blue shadows; the pink goes in the center of the lid, purple to contour the corners, the blue at the inner corner, with purple eyeliner applied in a subtle cat-eye shape.
Light purple and light green are "universally" flattering and wearable, and men like a mint green for women with brown eyes, which brings out their natural yellow or golden specks.
Think watercolors. You'll get that softness.
Colors will appear even brighter if you prep the eye area beforehand with a neutral primer. A concealer, applied both around and on top of the lid, would do.
A creamy product is easier to blend than a powder, it also will look more natural.
We recommend applying blush with the fingers. (You can do the same with cream blush on the eyelids, nothing that a little stain of pastel pink or peach at the center of the lid makes for a very flattering look.)
But no neon blush. Swirl together with your brush flattering shades of peach, soft plum, shimmering pink and rose, then make sure to tap off any excess and sweep the brush upward from your cheekbone to temple to hairline.
But just as with the eyes, you need to even out the skin tone first. If your complexion has traces of green or yellow, you risk looking sick if the cheeks are very pink, and pink makeup on very pink skin can make you look tired.
We recommend sticking to the same color family for lips and cheeks.
It's not so much about a 'trend' with these colors. Nude lips, for example, was a 'trend' but was not flattering on everyone. But a natural pink glow? You just look prettier.
Any lip with a lot of color, be it pink, red, purple or fuchsia, is best complemented with an otherwise neutral face. (Think Sandra Bullock at the Oscars.)
The candy-colored lip would go well with another seasonal must-have, the little white dress.
For newbies to the world of brighter lipstick, we suggest starting with a pink that has a noticeable purple undertone. It probably is going to be lighter, sheerer and more wearable than you are expecting.
Another way to tone down a deeply pigmented lipstick is to apply a layer of clear gloss on top, which acts as a filter.
Favorite shades right now are a youthful watermelon lip gloss or a flirty bubble-gum pink called Giggle that is offered in a lip enamel (which promises is not as sticky as a gloss, so blowing hair in the wind is not a problem).
They both will announce a new playful, fun-loving attitude.

Friday, November 25, 2011

Take Good Care Of Your Skin Make You Look Younger

Many of us think that the only way to look younger is put lots of makeup and wear trendy clothes but the reality is that until your skin is well kept you can’t look younger. Skin care is very essential and gives you skin something that makeup will never do. There are many ways for skin care and many of them are extremely easy. Everyone wants to look young for as long as they can. A lot of it has to do with the kind of diet you take as well. Women to take a lot of water their skin are intact and they look fresh. Vegetables and fruits also do a great amount of deal to the skin.
For younger looking skin keep your skin cell hydrated. Make sure that you invest in a good moisturizer but also make sure that it doesn’t have oil content as it can clog your skin and give more pimples. Moisturizing your skin is very important it should be used every day even under makeup. Also put sunscreen on while going out because sunlight also damages your skin to a great amount of deal.
Younger looking skin can be achieved from many ways that you usually do not think off but they can be very helpful. Try pulling your hair back in a ponytail because it is hair style for younger people and will automatically give you a young look. Also it pulls the skin near your forehead and helps you get rid of the wrinkles on your forehead.
Skin care is the key for younger looking skin and it is definitely not that difficult. Calcium and vitamin supplements are also important. If you take care of your skin and drink fresh juices your skin will glow and look younger for a longer duration of time.

Tuesday, November 22, 2011

Building Your Healthy Lifestyle

Healthy lifestyle
It is common nowadays to eat from fast food outlet everyday, drinking soft drink, munching up junk food while watching TV shows, stay up late at night playing video games and many more unhealthy behaviour but did we know that healthy lifestyle is important for us to live a great life and not worry of the bad consequences. There are several ways to curb this unhealthy behaviour that are normally practiced by every family and ways to have a healthy lifestyle.
Food
Food is the main factor of having a healthy life because you need to eat to live right so what you eat determines your health effect on yourself and your family. Most family nowadays are too busy to manage their life at home especially which family that both parents are working and have their kids at home, they probably doesn’t have time to cook when they got back from work so one way to give their children something to eat is to buy it from commercial fast food outlet such as McDonalds, KFC, Pizza Hut to name a few. It’s not really a bad thing to do but children needs healthy food to grow healthier so why not just got back from work and spend a little time on light cooking such as fried noodle, noodle soup, mac n’ cheese, spaghetti and many more. Even thought this looks like a fast food and unhealthy but it’s actually kind of healthy and fresh even if you can’t manage to cook just go and buy something that is cooked upon ordering such as at the hawker stall, it’s still freshly cooked. Therefore, it is assume that food choice is one of the main factors of having a healthy lifestyle.

Time
Even thought career is the most important thing to pursue by everyone but family is actually by far most important than career. Your life won’t be joy and wonderful actually if you have a good career, nice fancy cars, and big celebrity house but your family are left at home living their life on their own especially if you have little kids at home. Your life will be absolutely quite and one moment in your life you’ll feel lonely. Thus, spending your time with your family is important and is actually the most important thing to do when you have a little kid at home, spend a little time playing with them, or even just chat with them about their interest such as toys, movies, cartoons and many more. When your family is happy with you, you’ll gain their trust on you and once for all you’ll have their support on pursuing your career and you could have the best of both career and family life.
Love and Care
Despite the time and food being the factors of healthy lifestyle, love and caring are also two or should I say one of the most important among others in lifestyle. With love and caring your family would be full of respect and understanding towards each other hence keeping your family close together so there won’t be a gap between each family member where children can express their feelings to their parents with ease without fear of being scolded or shouted at. Not just that, when parents earn the respect they should from their children, their children will automatically becomes obedience. Example, if their children did something wrong like watching television late night their parents should inform them that it is not good to do so and their children would listen because of the respect they have for their parents.
And so, these are several ways you can do for you to have a healthy lifestyle.

Wednesday, November 16, 2011

Enjoy the life now

Often we're told that we have to suffer now — give up what we want — in order to succeed later, that in order to save we must sacrifice. Give up instant gratification to get delayed gratification.
Here are some tips for actually living that philosophy:
Find free or cheap pleasures. Frugality does not have to be boring or restrictive … if you use your imagination. Be creative and find ways to have fun — loads of it — without spending much money. Have a picnic at the park, go to the beach, do crafts, board games, fly a kite, make art, bake cookies … I could list a hundred things, and you could come up with a few hundred more. Make a list of simple pleasures, and enjoy them to the maximum. This is the key to the whole idea of enjoying life now without spending tomorrow's dollar. See Savor the Little Things .
Make simplifying fun. I'm a big fan of simplifying my life, from decluttering to creating a simple lifestyle in every way. And to me, this is great fun. I get rid of stuff (and possibly make money selling it) and have a blast doing it. That’s good math.
Rediscover what’s important. Oftentimes we spend tons of money, shopping, going out, watching movies, eating out … without really enjoying life. And when we stop to think about it, we never have time for the things we really want to do. Well, that's probably because your life is filled with things that aren't very important to you. Instead, step back and really think about what’s important to you. Then get rid of the other (expensive) stuff, and focus on what's important. Listen to some stuff on my list: my wife and kids, other friends and family, reading, writing, exercising, volunteering, spending quiet time in contemplation. Guess how many of those things cost a lot of money? Read more here .
Make people a priority. This is related to the above point, but I thought I'd give it a little more emphasis. If you give "stuff" a priority — stuff like gadgets, nice furnishings, nice clothes, shoes, jewelry, etc. — then you will spend a lot of money. But if you make people a priority — the people you love most, you close friends and family — you don't need to spend a dime to enjoy life. Make some time to visit with friends, or your parents … and have a conversation with them that doesn't involve eating out or going to the movies. Just sit, have some iced tea or hot cocoa (depending on the weather), and talk. Tell jokes and laugh your heads off. Talk about books you've read, movies you’ve watched, new things going on in your life, your hopes and dreams. And make time for your kids or your significant other — really spend time with them, doing things that don't cost money. (See Spend Time with Family and Loved Ones , 100 Ways to Have Fun With Your Kids and 50 Ways to Be Romantic on the Cheap .)
Find time for yourself. Make time every day, and every week, to spend time alone. It really gives more meaning and enjoyment to your life, rather than rushing through life with no time to think, to breathe. For ideas on how to make this time, see these ways to create time for solitude .
Sometimes, splurge. You shouldn't restrict yourself from expensive pleasures all the time — it's not good to develop the feeling of deprivation. To prevent that, once in awhile, buy yourself something … or better yet, give yourself a decadent treat. I love things with dark chocolate or berries. Crepes with ice cream and berries are one of my favorites. Just don't go overboard … and learn to enjoy the splurge to the fullest. If you truly take the time to enjoy a treat, you don't need a lot of it.
Track your successes. It doesn't really matter how you track your success … you can use gold stars for creating a new simplifying or frugalfying habit, or a spreadsheet chart to track your decreasing debt and increasing savings or investments. Tracking is a great way to not only provide motivation, but make the process of changing fun.
Reward yourself. And in order to make it more fun, celebrate every little success! Set rewards for yourself (hopefully not too expensive!) along your path to success — celebrate one day, two days, three days, a week, two weeks, three, a month … you get the idea.
Volunteer. One of the most rewarding things for my family has been when we have managed to volunteer. It's actually something we only started doing last year, but since then, we've done it a bunch of times in a number of different ways. And while it doesn't cost a dime, it is tremendously satisfying in ways that money could never buy. Read more .
Live in the moment. Learn to think not so much about the past or future, but about what you are going through right now. Be present. It may seem trite, but it's the key to enjoying life to the fullest — without having to spend money. Think about it — you can spend money on eating out, but if you are not really thinking about what you're eating, you may not enjoy it much at all. But if you cook a simple but delicious meal, and really taste every bite, it can be tremendously enjoyable without costing a lot. Read more .
Slow down. In the same way, you can't really enjoy life to the fullest if it's rushing past you like it's on fast forward. Ever think about how quickly a week, a month, or a year goes by? Perhaps you're in the fast lane too much. Try slowing down, and things will be less stressful and more enjoyable. Drive slower , eat slower , live slower .
Learn to find cheap, cool stuff. Call me crazy, but I love shopping at thrift stores. You can find so many cool things there, and it costs so little. Garage sales are the same way. Or check out Freecycle , or read 20 Ways to Find Free or Cheap Books .

Saturday, November 12, 2011

The Beauty and the Sorrow by Peter Englund - review

Can people who didn't experience the first world war ever know – really know – what it was like? The question troubled a French civil servant, Michel Corday, in 1917. Not that Corday ever smelled a trench or heard a shell explode; in Paris and far from the frontline, it seemed to him that even civilian life would be hard for a historian to reproduce accurately. So little of the evidence could be trusted. He knew from conversations overheard on trams and in the street that people had begun to long for peace. But the word was taboo: it could hardly be spoken aloud because it suggested defeatism and compromise when what the state wanted was victory. Newspapers were strictly censored and run by propagandists, warmongers and ideologues – their reporting would be an unreliable guide in the future to the public mood of the past. Photography couldn't be counted on either: "Vanity or shame prevents certain aspects of life from being reflected in our illustrated magazines." As for private correspondence, men who wrote from the front knew that their letters might be opened and therefore they gave "a false feeling about the war".
This wasn't just a problem for the years ahead. As Corday noted in his journal, it was the same combination of ignorance and denial that kept the catastrophe going so long. The French public never suspected for a moment they would be able to stop the war – "that its parasitic life depends on their acquiescence".
Nearly a hundred years later, we know that Corday's fears about our understanding of 1914-18 were to a great extent misplaced. Postwar revulsion throughout Europe quickly stripped away the thin layer of patriotism that had varnished terrible events. New historical approaches ranked the experience of private soldiers above that of generals. Wilfred Owen became a classroom favourite, as did the hard-to-contradict phrase "useless slaughter". The causes and consequences of the war have been endlessly unpicked and debated. Its presence as the first of the great shadows to be cast across the last century is there.


We know the thing generally: as sandbags, screaming shells, bodies hanging on the old barbed wire and poppies growing in the mud. And also particularly: in Britain, at least, the western front counts for most. Among the great merits of Peter Englund's book is its geographical scope, which takes in Mesopotamia, east Africa, the Dolomites, the Balkans and Russia as well the familiar imagery of Flanders and Verdun. We reach these places through the stories of 20 men and women of at least a dozen nationalities, which Englund has assembled from diaries, memories and journals (including Corday's). He wanted what he calls "a work of anti-history", which by taking 20 people and following them through the length of the war (or until they die in it) would try to transform a vast, cloudy event into a telling patchwork of particular experience.
His cast is tremendously various, ranging from a Venezuelan cavalryman who served in the Ottoman army to a German schoolgirl and a Scottish nurse. Their words form only a small part of each of the interwoven episodes, which Englund writes in a telegraphic present tense alive with detail. The technique invites suspicion – how does Englund know that on a particular day a particular place had "sun-warmed grass smelling of summer", unless the original text has bothered to tell him? But as he is both an academic historian and the permanent secretary of the Swedish Academy, which awards the Nobel for literature, he surely knows – and respects – the difference between a fact and a factoid. In any event, this reader could detect no false notes in the narratives, which make this a literary as well as historical achievement (well served by its English translator, Peter Graves).
Some things in it can never be forgotten. Fear, especially, is brought alive. When René Arnaud's infantry battalion hears that it's about to be sent again to Verdun, 50 or so men crowd around an army doctor citing anything – hernias, rheumatism, murmuring hearts – that will get them off the hook. As Arnaud records, men clung to him "like drowning men clinging to a life-buoy". Meanwhile in Paris troops seek out prostitutes who might give them venereal disease. There is even a trade in gonococcal pus, which soldiers buy and smear into their genitals in the hope of a long stay in hospital; according to Englund, the more desperate also smear it into their eyes and end up permanently blind.
How can a war be sustained when it provokes such dread in its combatants? In the Italian army, Paulo Monelli watches as two deserters are shot by members of their own unit. The condemned men scream, shout, weep and plead, and at first the firing squad refuses to fire. But at the third command they do – the Italian army believes in iron discipline and executes many more of its own men than either Britain or Germany (the figures are respectively 1,000, 361 and 48). "All armies," Englund writes, "function on a mixture of external compulsion and consent (spontaneous or orchestrated); indeed, this whole war originated in a meeting of those two concepts." But when consent goes completely and order depends on compulsion, "the whole edifice collapses".
In Germany come the autumn of 1918 this more or less happens. Seaman Richard Stumpf has spent his entire war on a battleship that rarely puts to sea and has never fired a gun in anger. We meet Stumpf in several episodes, complaining about the lack of action. But rather than the enemy, the people he has come to loathe are the ship's officers, who enjoy a life of privileged, drunken idleness. Refusing to obey orders becomes a routine event, leading to a mutiny when the fleet is ordered to sea for one last glorious battle. The mutiny becomes a revolutionary march through the port of Wilhelmshaven, unopposed by the officers. Somebody waves a red flag. Germany is starving, disillusioned and exhausted. A week later the war ends. The lucky survivors are not the people they were in 1914.

Wednesday, November 9, 2011

  "Defining Beauty: Ms. Wheelchair America" is more than a film about a beauty contest. Yes, the contestants get dressed up, yet showing off their looks is secondary to the true aim of the documentary: advocacy.
In "Defining Beauty," which will show at the Cucalorus Film Festival in Wilmington on Friday, women from 27 states compete to see who can represent their constituency best. For various reasons, from conditions they were born with to accidents, all of the women are in wheelchairs.


In an interview with the StarNews last week, Alexis Ostrander, director and co-producer of the film, said she wanted to allow the audience to see past the chair and into the women's lives.
"These women are just like other women and I wanted to shed light on that," Ostrander said via Skype.
The film follows several of the 2010 Ms. Wheelchair America contestants as they vie for the crown at the finals in South Dakota. Among those in the running is Ms. Wheelchair North Carolina 2009, Erika Bogan.
Bogan, 30, who's the mother of three girls, had her life changed forever on Jan. 20, 2002, when she was forced into a vehicle by a raging boyfriend.
"He was doing 75 miles per hour in a 35 zone and lost control," Bogan said via Skype.
She was thrown from the vehicle and spent two and a half months in a coma. When she awoke, doctors informed her she had a spinal cord injury and would need a wheelchair for mobility.
"At that moment, I could have given up," Bogan said. "I realized instead that things happen for a reason,"
She was originally approached about the Ms. Wheelchair competition at a Surfers Healing event, an organization that allows people with disabilities the chance to enjoy the water.

Monday, November 7, 2011

How to Find Beauty in Life

Life is mostly made up of routines and patterns. Every day we act them out and they are what make up the bulk of our lives. Many of us live according to a socially acceptable template, within the realm of safety, while living repetitively and dreaming of ways to escape.

I used to revolt against these routines. I saw them as the enemy of adventure and of living a spontaneous life. However, I’ve found that routines can be quite blissful. I’ve realized that every day events and what we would commonly classify as “normal”, is often extraordinary if you just take a closer look.
I’ve discovered that even if you’re not exactly where you’d like to be, that doesn’t mean that life right now can’t be beautiful or enjoyable. And the best part is, you don’t have to do anything to make it beautiful. It already is beautiful.
All you have to do is open your eyes.
Seeing Things Differently
We are constantly surrounded by miracles, but we do not recognize them because they come to us so gracefully and seamlessly.
For example, have you ever thought about how many different processes have to be organized simply to create the experience you’re having right now? Imagine if all of that was a conscious effort. Imagine if you had to think about breathing, or think about listening to music. You don’t, it just happens. Isn’t that amazing?
Now multiply that by a trillion. Every breath, every movement, and every condition that’s creating the possibility for you to be alive right now is a miracle.
We often get inundated with our To-Do lists, or get caught up in the drama of things that aren’t really important. Realizing that beauty exists in every moment is possible; it simply takes a way of seeing things a bit differently.
Boredom due to routine is a creation of the mind. In reality, there are no ordinary or extraordinary moments. There is beauty everywhere. If you truly understand this, you can look at any ordinary object and find beauty in its existence. You can see a pile of rotting compost and realize that within that organic waste is the possibility of a garden of flowers.
I’ve found that there are a few easy shifts that need to take place, in order to create a state of constant awareness of how amazing life is. Most of the time we only catch a glimpse of how amazing things really are before we get sucked back into the monotony of our routines. We lose mindfulness.
In order to make awareness of beauty a permanent fixture in your life, you need to practice being mindful and aware. I don’t claim that practicing these principles is easy, but the benefits are worthwhile when we bring consciousness into our daily existence.
1. Practice Listening
One of the biggest blocks to recognizing all of life’s extraordinary moments is that we often don’t stop to listen. We’re too busy talking to ourselves. If we’re thinking all the time, we’re living entirely in a world of symbols. We’re living in a world of abstractions about reality; words that describe, label, and categorize things. This can be a wonderful tool for communication, but it can also be a curse when it gets out of control.
If we’re always thinking, we’re never in a relationship with reality. In order to become intimate with life, we need to listen. Imagine that every time you interacted with someone, you were the only one talking. There would be no communication, because you never gave the other person a chance to speak. It works the same way when you’re communicating with life.
Instead of thinking all the time and getting lost in your own thoughts, slow down and just listen. Put your focus on listening. When you find that you are drifting away in your own thoughts, gently bring your focus back to listening.
2. Practice Non-Judgment
Have you ever noticed that when you judge other people, it immediately puts you in a negative mood?
Usually, the judgments we make are because other people aren’t conforming to our version of the way we would live. Everyone’s values are different, and that’s what makes life interesting. While there are some justifiable judgments you can make, they’re still, ultimately, not worth it.
Compassion is a better vehicle for change than judgment.
The next time you’re about to make a judgment, try to practice compassion instead.
Let your feeling of needing to judge be a reminder for you to practice compassion. That way, your negativity will be transformed into peace.
Beauty is experienced through a state of peace, never through a state of condemnation. And yes, non-judgment also means to stop complaining.
3. Open Your Heart
If you’re like me and you’re pretty left-brained, you might be thinking, “Okay that’s nice, but how exactly do I open my heart?”
Opening your heart is a matter of accepting yourself and life as it is. It’s a matter of forgiving yourself and others. It’s letting go of all your resistance to the flow of life and the flow of circumstances.
If you want to take action to change something, that’s fine. But it doesn’t make any sense to resist what is already a reality. Surrender to this moment, accept things and people as they are, and your heart will begin to open.
Tips for Daily Living
What all of these things have in common is presence. The more you’re living in the present moment, the more bliss you allow to come into your life. If you’re always living in the future, always seeking something, you’re rejecting what Is – you’re never actually here to experience the miracle of life, right now.
If you can just practice these three things, your life will start to transform dramatically. You’ll begin to tap into your inner integrity and live authentically. You can’t live in acceptance and not be authentic. And if you’re living authentically, you naturally move into a state of bliss. See where this is leading?
The three practices I’ve mentioned above are the primary catalysts for opening yourself up to how wonderful life can be. There are, however, many other practical things you can do that will help you become more aligned with these principles.
Here are a few suggestions:
Find beauty in the little things. It’s amazing to me how when I stop the incessant mental chatter, and actually just see things, I am blown away by how beautiful they are. The trees swaying, the leaves blowing around on the ground, the waves crashing on the shore. The simplest of things have the most profound beauty. But you can only see them if you’re really there. If your mind is brooding, if you’re off somewhere else, you’ll completely miss them.
Embrace your artistry. If you think you’re not a creative person, I’m here to respectably tell you – you’re wrong. You couldn’t not create, even if you wanted to. Every time you open your mouth, every story you tell yourself about the drama in your life, is an act of creation. You’re constantly shaping, reinventing, and writing the story of your life. Once you recognize this, it’s much more powerful for you to see yourself as an artist, rather than a non-creative person. So the question is: What story will you create today?
Live without limits. Some limits are positive and necessary (like speed limits), but a lot of the limits we place on our lives block us from experiencing our full potential. Arbitrary limits, like fearing to reach out to a homeless person or talk to strangers, restrict the flow of love in our lives.
Realize that beauty can be found in the most mundane. Beauty is not always realized through a life-changing moment or a great epiphany. It’s not always hidden in a rainbow, in an earth-shattering orgasm, or found skydiving at 5,000 feet above the ground. Beauty is often found through looking into a newborn’s eyes, in the blooming of a flower, or in paint peeling off an old fence. It’s often where you least expect it.
See for the first time. Sometimes we get bogged down in schedules and obligations, and we lose our sense of wonder about the simple joys of life. Just quieting yourself internally and opening yourself up to an experience can allow you to view it again for the very first time. When you’re listening to music, imagine that you might have not been born with the ability to hear. When you reach out to touch someone, think about how many people don’t have use of their limbs. When you observe your surroundings, imagine you’re seeing color for the first time.
Live intimately with life. The next time you have a drink of coffee or tea, completely take in the smell and the flavor of the beverage. When you breathe, feel the air enter your lungs. When you walk, really feel the ground beneath your feet. The amount of beauty you experience in life is largely related to your level of intimacy with life. If you’re walking around disconnected, you overlook the wealth of artistry that is available to you right now.
Make your passion a priority. It’s easy to get wrapped up in doing all of the things that we think must get done. Wanting everything to be perfect gets in the way of having time for the things you really care about. While the errands and things on your to-do list might be necessary, it’s important to make the things you love a priority. If you have a hard time with distractions getting in your way, make a specific time during your day that is sacred, where you only do what you really want to do. Maybe it’s an hour of Kung Fu or Yoga in the morning before the rest of the world wakes up. Maybe it’s 30 minutes of Mahjong before you turn in for the night. Whatever it is, you have to make it a priority or it will get lost in the vacuum of the minutiae abyss.
Focus on the good. The reason still puzzles me, but we humans have a tendency to focus on the negative in events, circumstances, and people. We have a tendency to count our misfortunes and all the things that are lacking before we count our blessings. Make a habit of focusing on all the things you’re grateful for and you will open yourself up to experiencing the beauty of life.
Give something away. I’ve found that the best way to reconnect with how beautiful life can be is to give something away. It doesn’t have to be anything material. It can be a compliment, a smile, or a positive intention for someone else. Sometimes the greatest gift you can give is sincerely giving your presence.
This list is, by no means, exhaustive. These are just the things that have worked for me. Experiment on your own and take chances. Sometimes a deep breath or a smile at a stranger is all it takes to bring you back into a state of presence.
Closing Thoughts
It’s easy to get motivated to follow or chase a new provocative idea. Seeing the beauty in the “ordinary” sounds quite alluring. But like most things that catch our fleeting interest, our well intended desires get lost in our rush to get things done and keep up with the day to day business of living.
To make our perception of life being amazing a constant perception rather than a transient one, we have to slow down. It’s only through seeing the wisdom of slowing down, breathing and being present that we can realize how ridiculous it is to always be in a hurry. We may think we’re moving quicker, and getting more things done. But in doing so, we miss the point: to enjoy life now.
Only by slowing down and being here now can we make what we’re doing worthwhile. It’s in slowing down that we allow ourselves space to experience life more fully. We often go through life trying to eliminate and fill up space as much as possible in an attempt to “maximize” our time. But in the end, the exact opposite happens.
It’s through space that air fills your lungs. It’s through space that your body moves. It’s through space in the vibration of the air that sound is heard. It’s in the gaps between veins that blood flows. Without the space between these letters, there would be no words for you to read -it would all be incoherent.
In this way, you realize something…
Emptiness truly roars. Silence speaks. Space gives birth to form.
It’s in the gaps that beauty is found.

Friday, November 4, 2011

Belief, beauty and big ideas

  If any of you read my new blog The Nocturnal Librarian you know October saw the bookconscious household hosting the Computer Scientist’s aunt and uncle, who are English. We tried to give them a real taste of New England, with a day in Boston, a drive to Mt. Kearsarge (Rollins State Park in Warner offers quite a vista of the surrounding hills, lakes and towns), a trip to Nubble light house at Cape Neddick in York, Maine, and shorter jaunts around our town. New England really is beautiful in every season, fall being perhaps the most spectacular.

It’s also touts itself as the birthplace of America — the country, but also the idea, of freedom from tyrrany. As we visited Boston I was reading Those Who Save Us, by Jenna Blum. Seeing the Freedom Trail sites with British relatives got me thinking about the way history changes entirely depending on the lens through which you view it. Blum considers that idea in her novel.
Those Who Save Us is the story of a German American history professor, Trudy, and her mother, Anna. At the beginning of the book, Trudy’s father has died; you immediately sense her strained relationship with Anna, and as the book unfolds you learn why Anna is so taciturn. Blum alternates between Anna’s story and Trudy’s efforts to understand German war experiences generally, and her mother in particular.
Anna’s wartime life included a forbidden love affair with a Jewish doctor, his imprisonment around the time of her pregnancy, and work in a bakery and with the German resistance. After the baker is killed on a mission, the Obersturmfuhrer from Buchenwald begins visiting Anna, making her his mistress. Trudy wonders how Germans could live with what the Nazis were doing, and is haunted by fleeting memories of a Nazi visiting her mother. Anna stays utterly silent about with what she did in order to stay alive and feed Anna, about Anna’s real father, and all she lost during the war. As the novel progresses, Blum deftly illustrates how history is not only a meta-narrative but millions of personal stories, each hinging on individual circumstances. I enjoyed it very much.
Firmin: Adventures of a Metropolitan Lowlife, by Sam Savage, looks at a different historical time and place: a derelict neighborhood in 19060′s Boston. The title character’s views on the bookstore he lives above, the brilliant but troubled writer he befriends, and the deteriorating neighborhood about to be bulldozed in the name of stamping out urban blight is unique because Firmin is a rat. Savage manages to make this lowly creature a truly empathetic character, one who ponders human nature, cruelty, beauty, and the meaning of a well lived life. Oh, and he can read, and educates himself by reading his way through the shop, as well as observing people.
It’s a tragicomedy about literature, friendship, and how to live, and if you’re in doubt you should just read it and see for yourself. Yes, Firmin is a rat, but he’s also one of the most imaginative, self-aware, thoughtful characters I’ve come across in fiction. I thoroughly enjoyed this novel, and am grateful to Poets & Writers magazine’s profile of Savage in the September issue, where I learned about his work. I hope to track down his other books, all published by Coffee House Press.
A co-worker at Regina Library talks about what he’s reading with me, and when I was explaining I like books that entertain while also probing Big Ideas he asked if I’d ever read The Prophet byKhalil Gibran. I hadn’t, so he lent me his copy. Given its wild popularity, I figured I should see for myself why people seem to love it or hate it.
I fell somewhere in the middle. I admire the idea: it’s a book of philosophical prose poems, told from the point of view of a man who is leaving a place of exile to return to his homeland. He’s clearly beloved by people in his adopted country, and they seek his wisdom before he departs. So from a literary point of view, combining a story with philosophy told in poetic language and a creative form is interesting. Some of the book is quite beautiful.
But I read a biographical piece on Gibran in the New Yorker that made me question whether he was a genius as so many believe or an egomaniac. So it was hard to take the book at face value after that. Read as interesting literature, rather than spiritual wisdom, I liked The Prophet; that said, there are worse things than to try to live by principles gleaned from a book, no matter the ego of the author.
Another author who interfered with my enjoyment of his book was Florent Chauvouet. His book, Tokyo On Foot: Travels in the City’s Most Colorful Neighborhood is visually amazing. His hand-drawn maps and sketches of people and places around Tokyo are whimsical and engaging. But readers should note it’s a book by a person who came to Japan for six months and clearly took issue with some aspects of Japanese life. Which is his prerogative — and maybe I would have some of the same feelings if I were to live there — but not what I want to read. Maybe I’m just being crank. The Computer Scientist loved this book, and he’s actually been to Japan a few times.
I visited two other countries via books in October: France and Iran. Longtime bookconscious readers know I have a fascination with Iran; it’s a place with a rich culture and history, but its people have really lost out in the leadership lottery. One regime after another has made modern Iran hell for at least some of the people, all of the time. Politics aside, it’s a shame, because there is so much to love about Persian literature, art, and food. I’ve learned to love Iranian culture mostly through memoirs.
Maman’s Homesick Pie: A Persian Heart In an American Kitchen by Donia Bijan is a memoir deeply interested in Iran’s food. Bijan is a chef who knew growing up that cooking was her passion. Her parents, a doctor and a nurse who were both larger than life characters who worked tirelessly to help their patients, had to flee Iran at the time of the Revolution. In America, Bijan’s father was daunted by the prospect of becoming a doctor all over again in his 60′s and eventually returned to Iran to re-open his hospital. Her mother worked as a nurse in California and supported Bijan’s dream of training in France to become a chef.
The family’s stories are fascinating, and Bijan tells them well, while also examining her own path in light of her family history. Like other good memoirs, Maman’s Homesick Pie is much more than a family narrative. Bijan explores cultural identity, the role of women in her two countries, marriage, and finding one’s true calling in life.
The book did make me hungry; Bijan includes recipes, which I haven’t tried. She cooked for Bono and his wife when they visited her San Francisco with their baby many years ago. How cool is that? Her descriptions of French restaurant life are fascinating as well; her own story is sort of a memoir within a memoir.
Speaking of France, I revisited the charming apartment house brought to life by Muriel Barbery in The Elegance of the Hedgehog in her second novel, Gourmet Rhapsody. This book quietly grew on me. If you’ve read The Elegance of the Hedgehog, you may recall one of the residents of the Parisian building is a restaurant critic, an influential but arrogant man named Pierre Athens. As Gourmet Rhapsody opens, Monsieur Athens is dying, and he is maddened by the faint remembrance of a flavor he can’t quite identify.
Barbery cleverly tells the man’s life story through an interweaving of his own memories and the thoughts of his family, friends, and neighbors. Even a statue in his study weighs in, along with his favorite cat. Each chapter brings readers closer to discovering what Athens is trying to recall, of understanding his ego and the path of emotional destruction he has left in the wake of his hedonistic life. The shifting points of view are delightful; if the whole book were told in his voice, you’d want to toss it aside in in disgust.
I will say Barbery gives the man a way with words. Take for example this passage, in which he describes tasting sushi for the first time: “Yes, it is like a fabric: sashimi is velvet dust, verging on silk, or a bit of both, and the extraordinary alchemy of its gossamer essence allows it to preserve a milky density unknown even by clouds.” Or later, “Life exists only by virtue of the osmosis of words and facts, where the former encase the latter in ceremonial grace.”
In other words, he tells the truth (or his perception of it) and tells it slant. Towards the end, Athens declares, “The question is not one of eating, nor is it one of living; the question is knowing why.” I think that would make a marvelous philosophy dissertation topic. If I ever go back to school, I’m on it.
Another novel that takes a hard look at “knowing why” is When She Woke by Hillary Jordan, the author of Mudbound. This twist on The Scarlet Letter is set in a dystopian future America where conservative religious leaders have taken power in the wake of terror attacks and a rampant STD scourge that has left many women barren. Our heroine, Hannah, is convicted of having an abortion, refuses to name the man who got her pregnant (her mega-church pastor), and is sentenced to being a “red” — she is “chromed” or genetically altered to turn her skin red, which marks her as a murderer.
The book reads like a thriller, in which Hannah and a friend she meets in prison are rescued from a cultish religious vigilante group by another cultish group who run a sort of Underground Railroad to spirit women like them to Canada. Jordan makes it more emotionally complicated than straight up good versus evil though, as Hannah grows out of her sheltered upbringing into a thinking, questioning adult.
The people Hannah meets do occasionally veer into stock characters: her rescuers speak French, which it seems to me is a little too caricatured of sneering at American politics; a spoiled wealthy southern white man in a grand old house is a turncoat; an Episcopal priest representative of the “Via Media” offers Hannah shelter in a storm.
This is a small quibble though, and may be my own perspective. Overall, I couldn’t put down When She Woke. Jordan addresses important questions of personal conduct and public approbation, and the danger of dominant culture or even the government in expressing public sentiment. She also champions critical thinking and individual actions, and examines how morality and belief can morph into extremism, especially when people are scared, uneducated, or both. In fact, one of the important themes of When She Woke is that mature belief grows as much from questions as from accepted truths.
Collecting personal statements of belief for public reading, listening, and discussion, is the fascinating work of This I Believe.org. In October I read This I Believe II: The Personal Philosophies of Remarkable Men and Women, ahead of the What Do you Believe? event at Regina Library next week. First year students at Rivier read this book as part of their entry into college life, and the college Writing and Resource Center is co-sponsoring the event. I love the idea of a community read that has a writing component.
This I Believe II, like all of the organization’s books, is a collection of essays from all kinds of people — young, old, men, women, successful, struggling, famous, unknown — about their personal philosophies. The essays examine belief in everything from the Golden Rule to baking. I tried reading some of the essays aloud, but the Computer Scientist pointed out they are much better heard in the voices of the people who wrote them. You can listen or read on the website, or subscribe to the podcast.
Either way, it’s heartening to know that so many people have spent time considering their deeply held beliefs and writing them down, and thousands have shared those personal manifestos. Some of the beliefs are easy to understand, others are not. Some contradict each other. I made a list of favorites from this volume; I hope to re-read them and think about why those ideas resonated with me. Maybe I’ll write my own essay some day. It would probably start with “I believe in reading.”
Or maybe, “I believe in poetry.” I attended a talk on some themes in Shakespeare’s sonnets, which came after a screening of Answer This! and a Q&A with Professor Ralph Williams (who acted in the film) and director Christopher Farah. Prof. Williams told the audience that beauty and the ravages of time were much on the minds of Elizabethans, but that even as we live longer today, beauty can serve the same purposes: to perpetuate love, and to help us deal evil. Reading poetry is one of the best ways I know of unplugging from the world’s bad news; some of my favorite poets address what’s evil or unpleasant head on.
Maxine Kumin’s poems on torture, for example. Or, in her book The Kingdom of Ordinary Time, Marie Howe‘s poems that face inequality (“The Star Market,” “What We Would Give Up,” domestic violence (“Non-Violence” and “The Tree Fort”) and terrorism (“Non-violence 2″). She writes with searing beauty, she writes of horrible things; these are not mutually exclusive. I heard Howe on Fresh Air, where she addressed writing about grief and loss, and checked for her work at the library that night.
Howe’s poems on faith are some of my favorites. “Easter” imagines Jesus re-entering his own broken body: “And the whole body was too small. Imagine/ the sky trying to fit into a tunnel carved into a hill./ He came into it two ways:/ From the outside, as we step into a pair of pants./ And from the center — suddenly all at once.” Wow. Have you ever even tried to imagine this? I hadn’t.
“Prayer” may be the simplest, most direct explanation of the human tendency to avoid opening ourselves to the divine and mysterious I’ve read in any form. “The mystics say you are as close as my own breath/ Why do I flee from you?/ My days and nights pour through me like complaints/and become a story I forgot to tell.”
And “Annunciation,” from a sequence called “Poems From the Life of Mary” describes motherhood’s jolting, almost unbearable essence: “a tilting within myself;” Mary is “only able to endure it by being no one and so/ specifically myself I thought I’d die/from being loved like that.”
A poetry professor at Rivier had the library staff pull a variety of poetry books to keep handy on a cart for students. I had just finished Howe’s book and heard Prof. Williams discuss sonnets and I was hungry for more poetry. So I browsed the cart.
Also, it was the Thursday before Halloween (Thursdays already being slow in the library, due to something called Thirsty Thursday which, as the mother of future college students, I don’t want to think about.) I read a fantastic book, Linda Pastan‘s Traveling Light, in one sitting. I love this book, I cannot believe I’ve made it to this point in my life without reading Linda Pastan, I want to go back and read every single poems she’s ever written.
Ever have that kind of reaction to an author? I scribbled notes as I read, marking both sides of a sheet of scrap paper at the reference desk. Lines I loved. Poems that struck me.
Such as: “In the end we are no more than our own stories:/ mine a few brief passages in the Book,/no further trace of plot or dialogue” from a poem called “Eve on Her Deathbed.” The poem goes on to trace Eve’s remembrances.
“Lilacs,” blew me away in part because a poem I was working on last week includes lilacs, as does another poem of mine, “Remembering Lilacs.” Pastan writes more beautifully what I know to be true of these flowers: “their leaves as heart-shaped/as memory itself.”
Pastan looks to the color of spring with both hope and bittersweet acceptance of time and its ravages of beauty in “April.” “A whole new freshman class/ of leaves has arrived/ on the dark twisted branches/ we call our woods, turning/ green now — color of/ anticipation. In my 76th year,/ I know what time and weather/ will do to every leaf.”
She takes a patiently humorous view of age in “Q & A” — a student in the poem asks “Did you write/your Emily Dickinson poem/because you like her work,/ or did you know her personally?” and Pastan writes of the audience’s laughter, the girl’s embarrassment, and her own response: “Surprise, like love, can catch/ our better selves unawares./ ‘I’ve visited her house,’ I said./ ‘I may have met her in my dreams.’”
I could go on and on — my notes include admiration for Pastan’s bold use of rhyme in “Bronze Bells of Autumn” and “Ash.” For the questions she opens up in “In the Har-Poen Tea Garden,” and “The Flood, 2005.” For the gorgeous “In the Forest,” which tells why poetry heals a broken world, because it gives us words to “Praise what is left.” My advice? Find this book and read it.
Tonight I will no doubt stay up too late, because I’m reading one of those novels I wish I could actually be in, even though it’s full of war and hardship: The Dovekeepers by Alice Hoffman. I’ve written about Hoffman’s ability to create characters I’d like to know before: her book The Red Garden was one of my favorite reads last year.
Doverkeepers is a page-turning saga. It’s the story of several women who have made their ways to Masada around 71 C.E., when the Romans have destroyed the Temple and Jews have fled Jerusalem. Hoffman tells each woman’s story, weaving their lives together so that the reader feels a part of the circle. As in many of her other books, there is a magical aspect to the story, but this is also a historical novel and there is an incredible amount of rich sensory detail that makes the time and place come alive.
I received this book as a review copy before I left the bookstore, and the word was that this is Hoffman’s “big book.” It certainly goes to the heart of many ideas present in other books of hers that I’ve read, with a depth and grace that surpasses her earlier work. That said, I haven’t read all of her books. Identity, family, faith, transformation, love — this book explores Big Ideas even as Hoffman tells stories that entrance not only for their imaginative power, but the sense of Truth in the voices of these women.
If I had to boil down what The Dovekeepers is about, I’d say it’s the story of being a woman. Together the protagonists represent a composite of all the roles women have filled over the centuries and in many ways still do, even in a world far different than that of first century Judea. Well, hang on; terrorism, violence, inequality, poverty, religious intolerance, culture wars, famine, drought and flooding, environmental degradation, invasions, world powers dominating smaller nations with their military and economic might, gender stereotyping, fear for the future. Maybe things aren’t so different in some ways.
Speaking of things that are the same: it’s November, so I am NaNoWriMo-ing. I’ve done this before (four times, in fact) but took last year off. I wasn’t going to try to squeeze writing 50,000 words in a month into my life this year either, but two things changed my mind. First, I wrote about NaNoWriMo over at my other blog and remembered all the reasons it’s brilliant. Second, I read this article on simplifying. I cut some RSS feeds from my Google Reader, and decided there were other ways I could trim excess from my schedule.
Plus, I had some time yesterday evening, between a staff meeting and my reference desk shift, to write. So I dove in and came up for air 5,057 words later. I’m off and writing. It’s exhilarating to be working on a big messy project, when I usually work in the tight constraints of line breaks and poetic forms.
The Computer Scientist started reading a large messy book recently, or so it appears to an outside observer: House of Leaves by Mark Z. Danielewski. He’d been on a reading sabbatical, with coaching and other things demanding more of his time. Stay tuned. He did tell me that the Atlantic article on the NCAA by Taylor Branch was one of the best pieces of nonfiction writing he’d read in a long time.
Teen the Younger says the best thing she read in October was the rest of The Giver, by Lois Lowry, which she pronounced ”intense.” She told me that the novel went along at a steady pace and right near the end, picked up and got a lot more exciting. She’s currently reading volume one of The Complete Sherlock Holmes.
What’s next for me? Hooksett Library book group is reading Loving Frank, and I have a collection of short stories about libraries, In the Stacks, which I’d like to read soon. And, I’m reading Migrations, a poetry collection by Anne Cluysenaar published by Cinnamon Press. Happy reading!

Wednesday, November 2, 2011

Sensing the beauty of China

  Chancellor of the University of Sydney and governor of New South Wales Marie Bashir has had an enduring fascination with the country since she was a child. Zhang Yue and Guo Shuhan report.


A group of 200 Chinese students in graduation gowns took turns stepping onto the stage to accept their degrees from Marie Bashir, chancellor of the University of Sydney and governor of New South Wales, at a recent graduation ceremony exclusively for Chinese graduates and their families.
"When Ms Marie Bashir held my hand firmly, looked into my eyes and said my name I suddenly felt that the moment didn't end my student life in Sydney but instead maintained my connection with the country," says Liu Biwei, a 25-year-old Sydney University graduate who earned her master's degree in commerce
The annual event has become one of Bashir's most cherished activities since 2007, when she assumed her post as chancellor.
She says it provides her with the opportunity to keep in touch with youngsters in China, a country she was curious about in her childhood and connected to 37 years ago.
Bashir's knowledge about China began with her parents.
"Although my parents had never been to China, they were interested in Chinese arts. My family has had a bunch of traditional Chinese handicrafts and embroideries since my childhood, like bed sheets, tablecloths and pillows," she says.
"From them, I could sense the beauty of China."
Bashir has spent most of her life in medicine, which is a family tradition. After graduating from Sydney University, she operated the Rivendell Unit in Sydney for children with emotional and psychiatric problems in the 1970s.
As her medical career progressed, her knowledge about China also grew from Chinese magazines. One of the terms she learned from these was the "barefoot doctors", a term that came from southern China. It refers to farmers who received basic medical training and brought healthcare to rural villages where most urban doctors would not consider settling. This impressed her.
"That was something hard for me to imagine as a medical student. I wanted to see how they took immunization and public health to the furthest areas of the provinces. So I decided to go and see for myself," she says.
Her wish to visit China came true in 1974, when she and her aunt took a flight to Hong Kong and then spent three weeks in Guangzhou, Shanghai and Beijing.
As one of the first batch of Australian visitors to China, she says the trip struck her greatly.
"I got a chance to see how the barefoot doctors were taking immunization and public health to rural villages," she says. Once there, she was not able to sleep and found herself walking through the streets at night.
"I was drawn to people's faces, mothers with babies on their backs, those wonderful faces," she recalls. "So much hardship and poverty but so much love for their children. Though the kids were comparatively thin and short due to the lack of food at that time, there was joy and hope on their faces that you could sense."
It was also during that visit that she was amazed by traditional Chinese medical treatments in rural areas, where brain tumors were removed with the assistance of acupuncture, which was used to sedate people who did not have anesthetics.
In 1984, she and her family were invited to attend the 35th anniversary of the founding of the People's Republic of China, held in Beijing.
"We were given a place to stand on Tian'anmen Square with other Australians and saw an incredible procession and festivities," she says. "People looked healthier, and there was great joy and passion on their faces. The progress is incredible."
Since then, Bashir has taken her family to China many times. Her visits to China during the 1980s renewed her impression of progress, especially when she and her aunt took a ride along the Yangtze River, visiting Hubei's provincial capital Wuhan, one of her favorite cities.
Her return to China several years later led to her acquaintance with some famous individuals.
Bashir was introduced to George Hatem (1910-1988), an American doctor who had worked in China since the 1930s. Hatem also introduced Bashir to one of the most famous figures of 20th century China, Madame Sun Yat-sen, one of the three famous Soong sisters.
"She was warm and lovely and expansive, and I was rather in awe of her," Bashir admits.
In September, Bashir attended the celebration for the 100th anniversary of the 1911 Revolution - the civil war led by Sun Yat-sen, which overthrew the Qing Dynasty (1644-1911) - held by Chinese associations in Sydney.
"I admire the Chinese people's love of learning, their diligence. So much of what they do and have created has come about because of meticulous attention to detail: their calligraphy, pen etchings, porcelain. And their respect for teachers and education - I applaud all of that."