Wednesday, December 28, 2011

Giving You Make Up Advice

Mascara makeup does not only add color to your eyelashes, but also volume. It lengthens and separates your eyelashes and can be water resistant. You need to choose depending on the effect intended. It's important to choose the right color, black, brown or blue nearly always being the most appropriate. But we must point out the existence of purple, violet and green mascaras as well. It's important to apply mascara from the roots and from the lachrymal out in a zig-zag motion. This will give eyelashes more volume. Lower eyelashes are made up with short movements out from the root.
Water Proof
Waterproof mascaras makeup are specially indicated for people who work in a humid environment and are also very useful for the summer months, when temperatures are higher and we perspire more, which can make eye make up run. We can find them in brown, blue, green and violent.
Longer, more separated
Mascaras make up that adds volume has small filaments that stick to the eyelashes lengthening them. Such mascaras also tend to be of medium consistency, allowing you to work the lashes until achieving the desired effect.
More volume
Mascaras makeup that add volume are usually thick and dry quickly, which means you'll have to work them very quickly to achieve a fake eyelash effect.
Trends and scientific advance in cosmetics have produced a revolution in brushes for this season. Several brands have let out a silicone brush that keeps products from going lumpy. Ever long by Yves Saint Laurent is a good example.
Eyeliner, though not as popular now as in the past, is still fashionable. Remember to apply it from the lachrymal out, making the line finer at the start and thicker at the end. This will allow us to create a frame for the eyes, and raise sloping eyes. There is a wide variety of colors, for example, Licuidlast Liner by MAC.
Yves Saint Laurent has let out its Automatic Eyeliner, which creates an extra slim line that is high precision as well as waterproof. This revolutionary product not only solves problems, but is also easy to carry.
I hope my makeup advice has been useful when choosing the mascara which best adapts to your needs. As for eyeliner, when choosing you should think about the color and the thickness of the line. Generally, the thinner the better, as it will be easier to apply.See you in the next issue, with more make up tips.

Friday, December 23, 2011

Most Important Makeup Tips

MAKEUP TIP # 1
You will never achieve the desired makeup look if you don´t keep your skin in check. It´s easy to skip, but skincare is one of the real treatments we can do ourselves at home to change the future of our skin. No matter what skin type you have, there are three rituals we all will benefit from.
Use a facial cleanser in the morning to shed dead skin cells and oils that the skin so kindly tried to remove during the night, and repeat the ritual in the evening so that the air pollution and makeup products that came in contact with your skin during the day, don´t get to spend all night digging further in to it.
Exfoliating. If you don´t already exfoliate your skin, you surely have heard of it. It comes in the shape of a scrub or as a peeling and it will renew your skin in a way no other easy home potion can do. It is vital to keep dry skin moist and oily skin dry.
Moisturize everything! Moisturizers comes in different shapes, but it is so important that you find a moisturizer that suits you instead of just opting for the 'Normal skin-type' products (normal skin basically doesn't exist, by the way) or skipping on it all together. It will keep your skin in check as it gets older, maintaining elasticity so that it won´t come hanging down your neck and an eye cream will actually hold the crows feet away for long time.
MAKEUP TIP # 2
When you're looking for an eye shadow, there's a very easy trick you can do to make sure the eye shadow will stay on and last you for minimum a year. While in the store, simply rub the eye shadow tester on your fingertip and apply it to the back of your hand. If the color comes out as intense and in the same shade as you see in the box, the eye shadow is good. Cheaper eye shadows will tend to look a shade lighter on your hand. This means you will end up using a lot more product to get the effect you wanted.
MAKEUP TIP # 3
If you use a liquid foundation, it should always be followed by a powder. Without the powder- as foundation contains water; it will evaporate during the day. This is why so many feel like they look spotty in the afternoon. A loose and transparent powder will give the most natural look.
MAKEUP TIP # 4
Never limit yourself to one makeup look. It´s important to experiment and vary your makeup routines as it will make a bigger ´wow-effect´. Don´t be afraid to go without makeup either, this is going to allow you to see the difference and which aspects you actually cherish about your own makeup.MAKEUP TIP # 5
Keep your brushes clean! This will save you from a lot of unwanted bacteria contaminating your skin. Use shampoo or a disinfecting alcohol solution once a month.
MAKEUP TIP # 6
Know your colors:
Red brings out Green and vice versa
Blue brings out Orange and vice versa
Yellow brings out Purple and vice versa
So if you have blond hair, you will be well suited in purple colors, and if you have blue eyes they will come out even stronger if you use a bronze color (bronze contains orange).
If you have green eyes, they will look clearer with burgundy eye shadow or red lips, and if you have red hair you will always look great in the color green.
These simple steps are perhaps the most important tool we use as makeup artists and stylists when we are mapping out which colors to use in makeup and clothing.
MAKEUP TIP # 7
Dare to use red lips at least once in your life. It´s all about finding the right color, and if the color contains a good portion of blue, your teeth will look whiter!
MAKEUP TIP # 8
Always soften out any edges you make with colors. The most common flaw girls do is to leave the edges of the eye shadow, blush and foundation with a sharp line. This will draw attention and will also give an appearance of something being false or too much.

Tuesday, December 20, 2011

What You Need to Know About Undereye Concealer


There are a number of women whose major problem is under eye circles. Eye bags can really be a killer. But don’t fret. There are many women who on the same boat as you are and there are a number of solutions to cover those unsightly undereye circles. The single, most common and least expensive way of hiding those eyebags is using the nifty undereye concealer.
How to choose an underye concealer
Eye concealer for dark circles should be 1 or 2 shades lighter than your skin color. If you do not use any type of foundation or skin make up, you can go with an undereye concealer one shade lighter than your skin. If you wear foundation, you can go two notches lighter.
How to choose the right type of eye concealer
There are a number of concealers that are available for you to buy. If you have sensitive skin, you can go for hypo-allergenic concealers that won’t irritate you. For thin skin, you can go with the creamy type of eye concealer. Some people want to do away with heavy concealer because they tend to age their skin. You can also try concealer sticks for easy application. For problematic skin, the best thing to use is a mineral make up concealer that is safe for acne prone skin.
What is it you’re trying to cover?
Eye concealers differ from each other and each type specifically targets a certain undereye problem. Do you have blue/purple circles? Is there reddish discoloration under you eyes? Are you trying to hide your wrinkles? Is eye puffiness your problem? These questions will help you pick the best concealer that will work for you.
For dark and purplish circles, you can use an eye concealer with light yellow base. To conceal undereye redness, you can go with color correcting green eye concelear. To hide puffiness, you can choose eye concealer with soft pink tones.
If you are unsure which type of concealer is right for you, you can always have a chat with the a make up consultant, if there is anyone available, at a cosmetic shop.
Change eye concealer from time to time
Why do you need to change concealer? You need to because of the changing weather. During summer when your skin tends to hold more color, you may need a darker shade. During winter, you may need to shift to a concealer with moisturizing properties as your skin tends to dry up during cold months.
What to look for in an eye concealer
Just like any type of beauty product, an eye concealer are made up of different ingredients. If you want a fairly good quality cosmetics, Maybelline concealer offers undereye make up that contains vitamins and moisturizers. When buying an eye concealer for dark circles, make sure that you choose a water resistant product that won’t easily fade.

Friday, December 16, 2011

The Effects Of Make Up

As many women can testify, there's a fine line between pretty and scary when it comes to make-up.
Now, scientists have shown that not only does the right amount of cosmetics make all the difference when it comes to beauty, but it also affects judgements of competence and trustworthiness.
For all of their positive effects on looking and feeling good, large amounts of make-up soon start to negatively impact on the way people perceive an individual's honesty.
In the study, funded by Procter & Gamble, scientists at Massachusetts General Hospital, Harvard Medical School, Boston University and the Dana-Farber Cancer Institute asked participants to rate various looks in terms of competence, likeability, attractiveness and trustworthiness.
Pictures of women wearing no make-up, and looking 'natural', 'professional,' and 'glamorous,' were shown to volunteers for different lengths of time.
When shown the images for just 250milliseconds, all ratings went up with the amount of make-up, says the report, published by Plosone.org.
However, when study participants were allowed to take in the pictures at length, the results changed significantly.
Nancy Etcoff, the study's lead author and associate researcher at Massachusetts General Hospital told ABC news that 'we found that when faces were shown very quickly, all ratings went up with cosmetics in all different looks.'
'The women were judged as more competent, likeable, attractive and trustworthy.'
Given more than just a glimpse of the images, participants showed that beauty and competence went up, but trustworthiness - or honesty - soon suffered as cosmetic looks became heavier.
'When they got to the more dramatic make-up looks, people saw them as equally likeable and much more attractive and competent, but less trustworthy,' comments Etcoff to the news site.

Monday, December 12, 2011

Homemade Beauty Tips

When you are talking about beauty tips it not only covers your skin, but also your hair, your hands, and your whole body. You can go to your local department store and buy a variety of over the counter products for your face, hands, hair, and other areas of your body, but when you read the long list of ingredients in these products you are not sure just exactly what you are putting on your body. To alleviate all those questions and help to save money, use homemade beauty products that are natural with no added chemicals.
Here are some homemade beauty recipes for your skin.
Oatmeal is an excellent natural scrub to help remove the dead cells from your face. Use a paste of one half cup of water and one half of oatmeal.
Cucumbers are a natural astringent that will help slow down the aging process and tighten your skin. Grate cucumber and extract juices and apply juices to your face with a cotton ball, let dry for twenty minutes, then rinse with cold water.
Make a face mask of egg yolk with one egg yolk, one half tablespoon lemon juice and one half tablespoon of olive oil. Put it on your face, let dry for fifteen minutes, and then rinse off with water. Good for dry to normal skin.
Here are some homemade beauty recipes for your hair.
For dandruff you can use a brown sugar scalp scrub. You need to mix one part conditioner and two parts brown sugar and then lightly rub this mixture on your scalp. But be careful when you do this to not tangle your hair and then rinse it thoroughly with warm water.
You can also moisturize your hair with a mix of olive oil and honey to your conditioner if you have dry hair. If your hair is oily you should avoid moisturizing your hair. You could you also use mayonnaise on your hair if it is dry. With either one apply it to wet hair and then wash your hair thoroughly with the mixture. Rinse your hair and then shampoo it if necessary.

Friday, December 9, 2011

Give Beauty Touch to Your Persona With Pearl Pendants

Pearl earrings are the most essential parts of a pearl necklace. It gives an elegant look to any decor.
Pearls are the most valuable asset a woman can never have or wear. And is available in a variety of styles, designs and colors. Pendant is one of them and used to be the most important part of the collar. The appearance of the light and sparkle pearls has fascinated women and allowing them to look exceptionally beautiful and magnificent.
There is no doubt that women’s clothes and is always admired by all, but the beauty of women is incomplete unless and until it is wrapped in a beautiful jewelry. And what else can be beautiful as a bright pearl. It’s kind of gem that will surely make your heart beat for her. When used by a woman, she became the party and do nothing to prevent anyone notice the woman who wore a beautiful pearl jewelry.
Adorn a necklace of pearls is as if you live a life style and luxury. However, the selection of a perfect pearl and very little can be really difficult for you. It becomes essential for the person to learn more about the specific topic for which you are going. It would be desirable to go online and get information about pearls and their types.
A pearl pendant can be used in any other necklace and simple. For example, if you have a gold chain and pendant all, then you can easily hear this combination that will enhance your beauty and more. Therefore, you do not need to look out for a pearl necklace to wear a pendant.
Can also be used with caution for gifts. And while choosing a gift for your near and dear ones, choose the matching pendant taste, preferences and style of the receiver. These are the most popular gifts that may have closed meetings.
Pendants made of beads are a small piece of jewelry that is an absolute necessity to enhance the beauty of a woman. He does not need any medium for any other jewelry, as it is sufficient to define the beauty and grace of a woman. Nothing can express your love and care for your near and dear one elegant pearl pendant and shiny.

Tuesday, December 6, 2011

Beauty And Fitness For You

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Thursday, December 1, 2011

African Beauty

They say beauty is in the eye of the beholder, which means that different people possess different standards of beauty and that not everyone agrees on who is beautiful and who is not. This is the first stereotype or aphorism that evolutionary psychology has overturned. It turns out that the standards of beauty are not only the same across individuals and cultures, they are also innate. We are born with the notion of who’s beautiful and who’s not.
On the surface, the aphorism “beauty is in the eye of the beholder” appears quite reasonable. Many introductory college textbooks in sociology and anthropology include pictures of people who are considered to be beautiful in different cultures, and some of them look quite bizarre to the contemporary western eye. However, evolutionary psychological research has overturned this common assumption and widespread belief.
Within the United States, both East Asians and whites, and whites and blacks agree on which faces are more or less beautiful. Cross-culturally, there is considerable agreement in the judgment of beauty among East Asians, Hispanics, and Americans; Brazilians, Americans, Russians, the Aché of Paraguay, and the Hiwi of Venezuela; Cruzans and Americans in Saint Croix; white South Africans and Americans; and the Chinese, Indians, and the English. In none of these studies does the degree of exposure to the western media have any influence on people’s perception of beauty. How is it possible for people from such diverse cultures to agree broadly on who is beautiful and who is not?
It appears that people from different cultures share the same standards of beauty because they are innate; we are born with the knowledge of who’s beautiful and who’s not. Two studies conducted in the mid-1980s independently demonstrate that infants as young as two and three months old gaze longer at a face that adults judge to be more attractive than at a face that adults judge to be less attractive. Babies are wonderfully hedonistic and have no manners, so they stare at objects that they consider to be pleasing. When babies stare at some faces longer than others, it indicates that they prefer to look at them and find them attractive.
In the most recent version of this experiment, newborn babies less than one week old show significantly greater preference for faces that adults judge to be attractive. Another study shows that 12-month-old infants exhibit more observable pleasure, more play involvement, less distress, and less withdrawal when interacting with strangers wearing attractive masks than when interacting with strangers wearing unattractive masks. They also play significantly longer with facially attractive dolls than with facially unattractive dolls. The findings of these studies are consistent with the personal experiences and observations of many parents of small children, who find that their children are much better behaved when their babysitters are physically attractive than when they are not.
Even the most ardent proponents of the traditional view that “beauty is in the eye of the beholder” must admit that one week (or even a few months) is not nearly enough time for infants to have learned and internalized the (supposedly arbitrary) cultural standards of beauty through socialization and media exposure. These studies instead strongly suggest that the broad standards of beauty might be innate, not learned or acquired through socialization. The balance of evidence indicates that beauty is decidedly not in the eye of the beholder, but might instead be part of universal human nature.

Monday, November 28, 2011

Make Up A Sweet New Look

Ignore the jellybeans and chocolate eggs. You can have something sweet this season that is not sugary: trend-right, candy-colored makeup.
The cosmetic industry is turning to candy for inspiration this season. Cheerful hues give off a youthful happy vibe and brightens up any dreary day.
Everyone wants a new look or a pick-me-up, these pastel colors work really well for that. It's a pop of something fun, but it's not too much, not too scary. It's a safe experiment.
We saw a lot of peach and pinks on the fashion runways, and they already have made it to the street. It's a very girlie, feminine look.
And the best part? No sugar high.
Some tips on how to wear these shades:
Pick one area to play up, either the eyes, lips or cheeks, says Dominic Driguglio, Stila celebrity makeup artist, but do not do it all at once. You will get the brightest pop on your eyes, he says.
Use a bright blue or green shadow on the lid, no eyeliner and lots of black mascara, he says, or, alternatively, you can do a mix of pink, purple and blue shadows; the pink goes in the center of the lid, purple to contour the corners, the blue at the inner corner, with purple eyeliner applied in a subtle cat-eye shape.
Light purple and light green are "universally" flattering and wearable, and men like a mint green for women with brown eyes, which brings out their natural yellow or golden specks.
Think watercolors. You'll get that softness.
Colors will appear even brighter if you prep the eye area beforehand with a neutral primer. A concealer, applied both around and on top of the lid, would do.
A creamy product is easier to blend than a powder, it also will look more natural.
We recommend applying blush with the fingers. (You can do the same with cream blush on the eyelids, nothing that a little stain of pastel pink or peach at the center of the lid makes for a very flattering look.)
But no neon blush. Swirl together with your brush flattering shades of peach, soft plum, shimmering pink and rose, then make sure to tap off any excess and sweep the brush upward from your cheekbone to temple to hairline.
But just as with the eyes, you need to even out the skin tone first. If your complexion has traces of green or yellow, you risk looking sick if the cheeks are very pink, and pink makeup on very pink skin can make you look tired.
We recommend sticking to the same color family for lips and cheeks.
It's not so much about a 'trend' with these colors. Nude lips, for example, was a 'trend' but was not flattering on everyone. But a natural pink glow? You just look prettier.
Any lip with a lot of color, be it pink, red, purple or fuchsia, is best complemented with an otherwise neutral face. (Think Sandra Bullock at the Oscars.)
The candy-colored lip would go well with another seasonal must-have, the little white dress.
For newbies to the world of brighter lipstick, we suggest starting with a pink that has a noticeable purple undertone. It probably is going to be lighter, sheerer and more wearable than you are expecting.
Another way to tone down a deeply pigmented lipstick is to apply a layer of clear gloss on top, which acts as a filter.
Favorite shades right now are a youthful watermelon lip gloss or a flirty bubble-gum pink called Giggle that is offered in a lip enamel (which promises is not as sticky as a gloss, so blowing hair in the wind is not a problem).
They both will announce a new playful, fun-loving attitude.

Friday, November 25, 2011

Take Good Care Of Your Skin Make You Look Younger

Many of us think that the only way to look younger is put lots of makeup and wear trendy clothes but the reality is that until your skin is well kept you can’t look younger. Skin care is very essential and gives you skin something that makeup will never do. There are many ways for skin care and many of them are extremely easy. Everyone wants to look young for as long as they can. A lot of it has to do with the kind of diet you take as well. Women to take a lot of water their skin are intact and they look fresh. Vegetables and fruits also do a great amount of deal to the skin.
For younger looking skin keep your skin cell hydrated. Make sure that you invest in a good moisturizer but also make sure that it doesn’t have oil content as it can clog your skin and give more pimples. Moisturizing your skin is very important it should be used every day even under makeup. Also put sunscreen on while going out because sunlight also damages your skin to a great amount of deal.
Younger looking skin can be achieved from many ways that you usually do not think off but they can be very helpful. Try pulling your hair back in a ponytail because it is hair style for younger people and will automatically give you a young look. Also it pulls the skin near your forehead and helps you get rid of the wrinkles on your forehead.
Skin care is the key for younger looking skin and it is definitely not that difficult. Calcium and vitamin supplements are also important. If you take care of your skin and drink fresh juices your skin will glow and look younger for a longer duration of time.

Tuesday, November 22, 2011

Building Your Healthy Lifestyle

Healthy lifestyle
It is common nowadays to eat from fast food outlet everyday, drinking soft drink, munching up junk food while watching TV shows, stay up late at night playing video games and many more unhealthy behaviour but did we know that healthy lifestyle is important for us to live a great life and not worry of the bad consequences. There are several ways to curb this unhealthy behaviour that are normally practiced by every family and ways to have a healthy lifestyle.
Food
Food is the main factor of having a healthy life because you need to eat to live right so what you eat determines your health effect on yourself and your family. Most family nowadays are too busy to manage their life at home especially which family that both parents are working and have their kids at home, they probably doesn’t have time to cook when they got back from work so one way to give their children something to eat is to buy it from commercial fast food outlet such as McDonalds, KFC, Pizza Hut to name a few. It’s not really a bad thing to do but children needs healthy food to grow healthier so why not just got back from work and spend a little time on light cooking such as fried noodle, noodle soup, mac n’ cheese, spaghetti and many more. Even thought this looks like a fast food and unhealthy but it’s actually kind of healthy and fresh even if you can’t manage to cook just go and buy something that is cooked upon ordering such as at the hawker stall, it’s still freshly cooked. Therefore, it is assume that food choice is one of the main factors of having a healthy lifestyle.

Time
Even thought career is the most important thing to pursue by everyone but family is actually by far most important than career. Your life won’t be joy and wonderful actually if you have a good career, nice fancy cars, and big celebrity house but your family are left at home living their life on their own especially if you have little kids at home. Your life will be absolutely quite and one moment in your life you’ll feel lonely. Thus, spending your time with your family is important and is actually the most important thing to do when you have a little kid at home, spend a little time playing with them, or even just chat with them about their interest such as toys, movies, cartoons and many more. When your family is happy with you, you’ll gain their trust on you and once for all you’ll have their support on pursuing your career and you could have the best of both career and family life.
Love and Care
Despite the time and food being the factors of healthy lifestyle, love and caring are also two or should I say one of the most important among others in lifestyle. With love and caring your family would be full of respect and understanding towards each other hence keeping your family close together so there won’t be a gap between each family member where children can express their feelings to their parents with ease without fear of being scolded or shouted at. Not just that, when parents earn the respect they should from their children, their children will automatically becomes obedience. Example, if their children did something wrong like watching television late night their parents should inform them that it is not good to do so and their children would listen because of the respect they have for their parents.
And so, these are several ways you can do for you to have a healthy lifestyle.

Wednesday, November 16, 2011

Enjoy the life now

Often we're told that we have to suffer now — give up what we want — in order to succeed later, that in order to save we must sacrifice. Give up instant gratification to get delayed gratification.
Here are some tips for actually living that philosophy:
Find free or cheap pleasures. Frugality does not have to be boring or restrictive … if you use your imagination. Be creative and find ways to have fun — loads of it — without spending much money. Have a picnic at the park, go to the beach, do crafts, board games, fly a kite, make art, bake cookies … I could list a hundred things, and you could come up with a few hundred more. Make a list of simple pleasures, and enjoy them to the maximum. This is the key to the whole idea of enjoying life now without spending tomorrow's dollar. See Savor the Little Things .
Make simplifying fun. I'm a big fan of simplifying my life, from decluttering to creating a simple lifestyle in every way. And to me, this is great fun. I get rid of stuff (and possibly make money selling it) and have a blast doing it. That’s good math.
Rediscover what’s important. Oftentimes we spend tons of money, shopping, going out, watching movies, eating out … without really enjoying life. And when we stop to think about it, we never have time for the things we really want to do. Well, that's probably because your life is filled with things that aren't very important to you. Instead, step back and really think about what’s important to you. Then get rid of the other (expensive) stuff, and focus on what's important. Listen to some stuff on my list: my wife and kids, other friends and family, reading, writing, exercising, volunteering, spending quiet time in contemplation. Guess how many of those things cost a lot of money? Read more here .
Make people a priority. This is related to the above point, but I thought I'd give it a little more emphasis. If you give "stuff" a priority — stuff like gadgets, nice furnishings, nice clothes, shoes, jewelry, etc. — then you will spend a lot of money. But if you make people a priority — the people you love most, you close friends and family — you don't need to spend a dime to enjoy life. Make some time to visit with friends, or your parents … and have a conversation with them that doesn't involve eating out or going to the movies. Just sit, have some iced tea or hot cocoa (depending on the weather), and talk. Tell jokes and laugh your heads off. Talk about books you've read, movies you’ve watched, new things going on in your life, your hopes and dreams. And make time for your kids or your significant other — really spend time with them, doing things that don't cost money. (See Spend Time with Family and Loved Ones , 100 Ways to Have Fun With Your Kids and 50 Ways to Be Romantic on the Cheap .)
Find time for yourself. Make time every day, and every week, to spend time alone. It really gives more meaning and enjoyment to your life, rather than rushing through life with no time to think, to breathe. For ideas on how to make this time, see these ways to create time for solitude .
Sometimes, splurge. You shouldn't restrict yourself from expensive pleasures all the time — it's not good to develop the feeling of deprivation. To prevent that, once in awhile, buy yourself something … or better yet, give yourself a decadent treat. I love things with dark chocolate or berries. Crepes with ice cream and berries are one of my favorites. Just don't go overboard … and learn to enjoy the splurge to the fullest. If you truly take the time to enjoy a treat, you don't need a lot of it.
Track your successes. It doesn't really matter how you track your success … you can use gold stars for creating a new simplifying or frugalfying habit, or a spreadsheet chart to track your decreasing debt and increasing savings or investments. Tracking is a great way to not only provide motivation, but make the process of changing fun.
Reward yourself. And in order to make it more fun, celebrate every little success! Set rewards for yourself (hopefully not too expensive!) along your path to success — celebrate one day, two days, three days, a week, two weeks, three, a month … you get the idea.
Volunteer. One of the most rewarding things for my family has been when we have managed to volunteer. It's actually something we only started doing last year, but since then, we've done it a bunch of times in a number of different ways. And while it doesn't cost a dime, it is tremendously satisfying in ways that money could never buy. Read more .
Live in the moment. Learn to think not so much about the past or future, but about what you are going through right now. Be present. It may seem trite, but it's the key to enjoying life to the fullest — without having to spend money. Think about it — you can spend money on eating out, but if you are not really thinking about what you're eating, you may not enjoy it much at all. But if you cook a simple but delicious meal, and really taste every bite, it can be tremendously enjoyable without costing a lot. Read more .
Slow down. In the same way, you can't really enjoy life to the fullest if it's rushing past you like it's on fast forward. Ever think about how quickly a week, a month, or a year goes by? Perhaps you're in the fast lane too much. Try slowing down, and things will be less stressful and more enjoyable. Drive slower , eat slower , live slower .
Learn to find cheap, cool stuff. Call me crazy, but I love shopping at thrift stores. You can find so many cool things there, and it costs so little. Garage sales are the same way. Or check out Freecycle , or read 20 Ways to Find Free or Cheap Books .

Saturday, November 12, 2011

The Beauty and the Sorrow by Peter Englund - review

Can people who didn't experience the first world war ever know – really know – what it was like? The question troubled a French civil servant, Michel Corday, in 1917. Not that Corday ever smelled a trench or heard a shell explode; in Paris and far from the frontline, it seemed to him that even civilian life would be hard for a historian to reproduce accurately. So little of the evidence could be trusted. He knew from conversations overheard on trams and in the street that people had begun to long for peace. But the word was taboo: it could hardly be spoken aloud because it suggested defeatism and compromise when what the state wanted was victory. Newspapers were strictly censored and run by propagandists, warmongers and ideologues – their reporting would be an unreliable guide in the future to the public mood of the past. Photography couldn't be counted on either: "Vanity or shame prevents certain aspects of life from being reflected in our illustrated magazines." As for private correspondence, men who wrote from the front knew that their letters might be opened and therefore they gave "a false feeling about the war".
This wasn't just a problem for the years ahead. As Corday noted in his journal, it was the same combination of ignorance and denial that kept the catastrophe going so long. The French public never suspected for a moment they would be able to stop the war – "that its parasitic life depends on their acquiescence".
Nearly a hundred years later, we know that Corday's fears about our understanding of 1914-18 were to a great extent misplaced. Postwar revulsion throughout Europe quickly stripped away the thin layer of patriotism that had varnished terrible events. New historical approaches ranked the experience of private soldiers above that of generals. Wilfred Owen became a classroom favourite, as did the hard-to-contradict phrase "useless slaughter". The causes and consequences of the war have been endlessly unpicked and debated. Its presence as the first of the great shadows to be cast across the last century is there.


We know the thing generally: as sandbags, screaming shells, bodies hanging on the old barbed wire and poppies growing in the mud. And also particularly: in Britain, at least, the western front counts for most. Among the great merits of Peter Englund's book is its geographical scope, which takes in Mesopotamia, east Africa, the Dolomites, the Balkans and Russia as well the familiar imagery of Flanders and Verdun. We reach these places through the stories of 20 men and women of at least a dozen nationalities, which Englund has assembled from diaries, memories and journals (including Corday's). He wanted what he calls "a work of anti-history", which by taking 20 people and following them through the length of the war (or until they die in it) would try to transform a vast, cloudy event into a telling patchwork of particular experience.
His cast is tremendously various, ranging from a Venezuelan cavalryman who served in the Ottoman army to a German schoolgirl and a Scottish nurse. Their words form only a small part of each of the interwoven episodes, which Englund writes in a telegraphic present tense alive with detail. The technique invites suspicion – how does Englund know that on a particular day a particular place had "sun-warmed grass smelling of summer", unless the original text has bothered to tell him? But as he is both an academic historian and the permanent secretary of the Swedish Academy, which awards the Nobel for literature, he surely knows – and respects – the difference between a fact and a factoid. In any event, this reader could detect no false notes in the narratives, which make this a literary as well as historical achievement (well served by its English translator, Peter Graves).
Some things in it can never be forgotten. Fear, especially, is brought alive. When René Arnaud's infantry battalion hears that it's about to be sent again to Verdun, 50 or so men crowd around an army doctor citing anything – hernias, rheumatism, murmuring hearts – that will get them off the hook. As Arnaud records, men clung to him "like drowning men clinging to a life-buoy". Meanwhile in Paris troops seek out prostitutes who might give them venereal disease. There is even a trade in gonococcal pus, which soldiers buy and smear into their genitals in the hope of a long stay in hospital; according to Englund, the more desperate also smear it into their eyes and end up permanently blind.
How can a war be sustained when it provokes such dread in its combatants? In the Italian army, Paulo Monelli watches as two deserters are shot by members of their own unit. The condemned men scream, shout, weep and plead, and at first the firing squad refuses to fire. But at the third command they do – the Italian army believes in iron discipline and executes many more of its own men than either Britain or Germany (the figures are respectively 1,000, 361 and 48). "All armies," Englund writes, "function on a mixture of external compulsion and consent (spontaneous or orchestrated); indeed, this whole war originated in a meeting of those two concepts." But when consent goes completely and order depends on compulsion, "the whole edifice collapses".
In Germany come the autumn of 1918 this more or less happens. Seaman Richard Stumpf has spent his entire war on a battleship that rarely puts to sea and has never fired a gun in anger. We meet Stumpf in several episodes, complaining about the lack of action. But rather than the enemy, the people he has come to loathe are the ship's officers, who enjoy a life of privileged, drunken idleness. Refusing to obey orders becomes a routine event, leading to a mutiny when the fleet is ordered to sea for one last glorious battle. The mutiny becomes a revolutionary march through the port of Wilhelmshaven, unopposed by the officers. Somebody waves a red flag. Germany is starving, disillusioned and exhausted. A week later the war ends. The lucky survivors are not the people they were in 1914.

Wednesday, November 9, 2011

  "Defining Beauty: Ms. Wheelchair America" is more than a film about a beauty contest. Yes, the contestants get dressed up, yet showing off their looks is secondary to the true aim of the documentary: advocacy.
In "Defining Beauty," which will show at the Cucalorus Film Festival in Wilmington on Friday, women from 27 states compete to see who can represent their constituency best. For various reasons, from conditions they were born with to accidents, all of the women are in wheelchairs.


In an interview with the StarNews last week, Alexis Ostrander, director and co-producer of the film, said she wanted to allow the audience to see past the chair and into the women's lives.
"These women are just like other women and I wanted to shed light on that," Ostrander said via Skype.
The film follows several of the 2010 Ms. Wheelchair America contestants as they vie for the crown at the finals in South Dakota. Among those in the running is Ms. Wheelchair North Carolina 2009, Erika Bogan.
Bogan, 30, who's the mother of three girls, had her life changed forever on Jan. 20, 2002, when she was forced into a vehicle by a raging boyfriend.
"He was doing 75 miles per hour in a 35 zone and lost control," Bogan said via Skype.
She was thrown from the vehicle and spent two and a half months in a coma. When she awoke, doctors informed her she had a spinal cord injury and would need a wheelchair for mobility.
"At that moment, I could have given up," Bogan said. "I realized instead that things happen for a reason,"
She was originally approached about the Ms. Wheelchair competition at a Surfers Healing event, an organization that allows people with disabilities the chance to enjoy the water.

Monday, November 7, 2011

How to Find Beauty in Life

Life is mostly made up of routines and patterns. Every day we act them out and they are what make up the bulk of our lives. Many of us live according to a socially acceptable template, within the realm of safety, while living repetitively and dreaming of ways to escape.

I used to revolt against these routines. I saw them as the enemy of adventure and of living a spontaneous life. However, I’ve found that routines can be quite blissful. I’ve realized that every day events and what we would commonly classify as “normal”, is often extraordinary if you just take a closer look.
I’ve discovered that even if you’re not exactly where you’d like to be, that doesn’t mean that life right now can’t be beautiful or enjoyable. And the best part is, you don’t have to do anything to make it beautiful. It already is beautiful.
All you have to do is open your eyes.
Seeing Things Differently
We are constantly surrounded by miracles, but we do not recognize them because they come to us so gracefully and seamlessly.
For example, have you ever thought about how many different processes have to be organized simply to create the experience you’re having right now? Imagine if all of that was a conscious effort. Imagine if you had to think about breathing, or think about listening to music. You don’t, it just happens. Isn’t that amazing?
Now multiply that by a trillion. Every breath, every movement, and every condition that’s creating the possibility for you to be alive right now is a miracle.
We often get inundated with our To-Do lists, or get caught up in the drama of things that aren’t really important. Realizing that beauty exists in every moment is possible; it simply takes a way of seeing things a bit differently.
Boredom due to routine is a creation of the mind. In reality, there are no ordinary or extraordinary moments. There is beauty everywhere. If you truly understand this, you can look at any ordinary object and find beauty in its existence. You can see a pile of rotting compost and realize that within that organic waste is the possibility of a garden of flowers.
I’ve found that there are a few easy shifts that need to take place, in order to create a state of constant awareness of how amazing life is. Most of the time we only catch a glimpse of how amazing things really are before we get sucked back into the monotony of our routines. We lose mindfulness.
In order to make awareness of beauty a permanent fixture in your life, you need to practice being mindful and aware. I don’t claim that practicing these principles is easy, but the benefits are worthwhile when we bring consciousness into our daily existence.
1. Practice Listening
One of the biggest blocks to recognizing all of life’s extraordinary moments is that we often don’t stop to listen. We’re too busy talking to ourselves. If we’re thinking all the time, we’re living entirely in a world of symbols. We’re living in a world of abstractions about reality; words that describe, label, and categorize things. This can be a wonderful tool for communication, but it can also be a curse when it gets out of control.
If we’re always thinking, we’re never in a relationship with reality. In order to become intimate with life, we need to listen. Imagine that every time you interacted with someone, you were the only one talking. There would be no communication, because you never gave the other person a chance to speak. It works the same way when you’re communicating with life.
Instead of thinking all the time and getting lost in your own thoughts, slow down and just listen. Put your focus on listening. When you find that you are drifting away in your own thoughts, gently bring your focus back to listening.
2. Practice Non-Judgment
Have you ever noticed that when you judge other people, it immediately puts you in a negative mood?
Usually, the judgments we make are because other people aren’t conforming to our version of the way we would live. Everyone’s values are different, and that’s what makes life interesting. While there are some justifiable judgments you can make, they’re still, ultimately, not worth it.
Compassion is a better vehicle for change than judgment.
The next time you’re about to make a judgment, try to practice compassion instead.
Let your feeling of needing to judge be a reminder for you to practice compassion. That way, your negativity will be transformed into peace.
Beauty is experienced through a state of peace, never through a state of condemnation. And yes, non-judgment also means to stop complaining.
3. Open Your Heart
If you’re like me and you’re pretty left-brained, you might be thinking, “Okay that’s nice, but how exactly do I open my heart?”
Opening your heart is a matter of accepting yourself and life as it is. It’s a matter of forgiving yourself and others. It’s letting go of all your resistance to the flow of life and the flow of circumstances.
If you want to take action to change something, that’s fine. But it doesn’t make any sense to resist what is already a reality. Surrender to this moment, accept things and people as they are, and your heart will begin to open.
Tips for Daily Living
What all of these things have in common is presence. The more you’re living in the present moment, the more bliss you allow to come into your life. If you’re always living in the future, always seeking something, you’re rejecting what Is – you’re never actually here to experience the miracle of life, right now.
If you can just practice these three things, your life will start to transform dramatically. You’ll begin to tap into your inner integrity and live authentically. You can’t live in acceptance and not be authentic. And if you’re living authentically, you naturally move into a state of bliss. See where this is leading?
The three practices I’ve mentioned above are the primary catalysts for opening yourself up to how wonderful life can be. There are, however, many other practical things you can do that will help you become more aligned with these principles.
Here are a few suggestions:
Find beauty in the little things. It’s amazing to me how when I stop the incessant mental chatter, and actually just see things, I am blown away by how beautiful they are. The trees swaying, the leaves blowing around on the ground, the waves crashing on the shore. The simplest of things have the most profound beauty. But you can only see them if you’re really there. If your mind is brooding, if you’re off somewhere else, you’ll completely miss them.
Embrace your artistry. If you think you’re not a creative person, I’m here to respectably tell you – you’re wrong. You couldn’t not create, even if you wanted to. Every time you open your mouth, every story you tell yourself about the drama in your life, is an act of creation. You’re constantly shaping, reinventing, and writing the story of your life. Once you recognize this, it’s much more powerful for you to see yourself as an artist, rather than a non-creative person. So the question is: What story will you create today?
Live without limits. Some limits are positive and necessary (like speed limits), but a lot of the limits we place on our lives block us from experiencing our full potential. Arbitrary limits, like fearing to reach out to a homeless person or talk to strangers, restrict the flow of love in our lives.
Realize that beauty can be found in the most mundane. Beauty is not always realized through a life-changing moment or a great epiphany. It’s not always hidden in a rainbow, in an earth-shattering orgasm, or found skydiving at 5,000 feet above the ground. Beauty is often found through looking into a newborn’s eyes, in the blooming of a flower, or in paint peeling off an old fence. It’s often where you least expect it.
See for the first time. Sometimes we get bogged down in schedules and obligations, and we lose our sense of wonder about the simple joys of life. Just quieting yourself internally and opening yourself up to an experience can allow you to view it again for the very first time. When you’re listening to music, imagine that you might have not been born with the ability to hear. When you reach out to touch someone, think about how many people don’t have use of their limbs. When you observe your surroundings, imagine you’re seeing color for the first time.
Live intimately with life. The next time you have a drink of coffee or tea, completely take in the smell and the flavor of the beverage. When you breathe, feel the air enter your lungs. When you walk, really feel the ground beneath your feet. The amount of beauty you experience in life is largely related to your level of intimacy with life. If you’re walking around disconnected, you overlook the wealth of artistry that is available to you right now.
Make your passion a priority. It’s easy to get wrapped up in doing all of the things that we think must get done. Wanting everything to be perfect gets in the way of having time for the things you really care about. While the errands and things on your to-do list might be necessary, it’s important to make the things you love a priority. If you have a hard time with distractions getting in your way, make a specific time during your day that is sacred, where you only do what you really want to do. Maybe it’s an hour of Kung Fu or Yoga in the morning before the rest of the world wakes up. Maybe it’s 30 minutes of Mahjong before you turn in for the night. Whatever it is, you have to make it a priority or it will get lost in the vacuum of the minutiae abyss.
Focus on the good. The reason still puzzles me, but we humans have a tendency to focus on the negative in events, circumstances, and people. We have a tendency to count our misfortunes and all the things that are lacking before we count our blessings. Make a habit of focusing on all the things you’re grateful for and you will open yourself up to experiencing the beauty of life.
Give something away. I’ve found that the best way to reconnect with how beautiful life can be is to give something away. It doesn’t have to be anything material. It can be a compliment, a smile, or a positive intention for someone else. Sometimes the greatest gift you can give is sincerely giving your presence.
This list is, by no means, exhaustive. These are just the things that have worked for me. Experiment on your own and take chances. Sometimes a deep breath or a smile at a stranger is all it takes to bring you back into a state of presence.
Closing Thoughts
It’s easy to get motivated to follow or chase a new provocative idea. Seeing the beauty in the “ordinary” sounds quite alluring. But like most things that catch our fleeting interest, our well intended desires get lost in our rush to get things done and keep up with the day to day business of living.
To make our perception of life being amazing a constant perception rather than a transient one, we have to slow down. It’s only through seeing the wisdom of slowing down, breathing and being present that we can realize how ridiculous it is to always be in a hurry. We may think we’re moving quicker, and getting more things done. But in doing so, we miss the point: to enjoy life now.
Only by slowing down and being here now can we make what we’re doing worthwhile. It’s in slowing down that we allow ourselves space to experience life more fully. We often go through life trying to eliminate and fill up space as much as possible in an attempt to “maximize” our time. But in the end, the exact opposite happens.
It’s through space that air fills your lungs. It’s through space that your body moves. It’s through space in the vibration of the air that sound is heard. It’s in the gaps between veins that blood flows. Without the space between these letters, there would be no words for you to read -it would all be incoherent.
In this way, you realize something…
Emptiness truly roars. Silence speaks. Space gives birth to form.
It’s in the gaps that beauty is found.

Friday, November 4, 2011

Belief, beauty and big ideas

  If any of you read my new blog The Nocturnal Librarian you know October saw the bookconscious household hosting the Computer Scientist’s aunt and uncle, who are English. We tried to give them a real taste of New England, with a day in Boston, a drive to Mt. Kearsarge (Rollins State Park in Warner offers quite a vista of the surrounding hills, lakes and towns), a trip to Nubble light house at Cape Neddick in York, Maine, and shorter jaunts around our town. New England really is beautiful in every season, fall being perhaps the most spectacular.

It’s also touts itself as the birthplace of America — the country, but also the idea, of freedom from tyrrany. As we visited Boston I was reading Those Who Save Us, by Jenna Blum. Seeing the Freedom Trail sites with British relatives got me thinking about the way history changes entirely depending on the lens through which you view it. Blum considers that idea in her novel.
Those Who Save Us is the story of a German American history professor, Trudy, and her mother, Anna. At the beginning of the book, Trudy’s father has died; you immediately sense her strained relationship with Anna, and as the book unfolds you learn why Anna is so taciturn. Blum alternates between Anna’s story and Trudy’s efforts to understand German war experiences generally, and her mother in particular.
Anna’s wartime life included a forbidden love affair with a Jewish doctor, his imprisonment around the time of her pregnancy, and work in a bakery and with the German resistance. After the baker is killed on a mission, the Obersturmfuhrer from Buchenwald begins visiting Anna, making her his mistress. Trudy wonders how Germans could live with what the Nazis were doing, and is haunted by fleeting memories of a Nazi visiting her mother. Anna stays utterly silent about with what she did in order to stay alive and feed Anna, about Anna’s real father, and all she lost during the war. As the novel progresses, Blum deftly illustrates how history is not only a meta-narrative but millions of personal stories, each hinging on individual circumstances. I enjoyed it very much.
Firmin: Adventures of a Metropolitan Lowlife, by Sam Savage, looks at a different historical time and place: a derelict neighborhood in 19060′s Boston. The title character’s views on the bookstore he lives above, the brilliant but troubled writer he befriends, and the deteriorating neighborhood about to be bulldozed in the name of stamping out urban blight is unique because Firmin is a rat. Savage manages to make this lowly creature a truly empathetic character, one who ponders human nature, cruelty, beauty, and the meaning of a well lived life. Oh, and he can read, and educates himself by reading his way through the shop, as well as observing people.
It’s a tragicomedy about literature, friendship, and how to live, and if you’re in doubt you should just read it and see for yourself. Yes, Firmin is a rat, but he’s also one of the most imaginative, self-aware, thoughtful characters I’ve come across in fiction. I thoroughly enjoyed this novel, and am grateful to Poets & Writers magazine’s profile of Savage in the September issue, where I learned about his work. I hope to track down his other books, all published by Coffee House Press.
A co-worker at Regina Library talks about what he’s reading with me, and when I was explaining I like books that entertain while also probing Big Ideas he asked if I’d ever read The Prophet byKhalil Gibran. I hadn’t, so he lent me his copy. Given its wild popularity, I figured I should see for myself why people seem to love it or hate it.
I fell somewhere in the middle. I admire the idea: it’s a book of philosophical prose poems, told from the point of view of a man who is leaving a place of exile to return to his homeland. He’s clearly beloved by people in his adopted country, and they seek his wisdom before he departs. So from a literary point of view, combining a story with philosophy told in poetic language and a creative form is interesting. Some of the book is quite beautiful.
But I read a biographical piece on Gibran in the New Yorker that made me question whether he was a genius as so many believe or an egomaniac. So it was hard to take the book at face value after that. Read as interesting literature, rather than spiritual wisdom, I liked The Prophet; that said, there are worse things than to try to live by principles gleaned from a book, no matter the ego of the author.
Another author who interfered with my enjoyment of his book was Florent Chauvouet. His book, Tokyo On Foot: Travels in the City’s Most Colorful Neighborhood is visually amazing. His hand-drawn maps and sketches of people and places around Tokyo are whimsical and engaging. But readers should note it’s a book by a person who came to Japan for six months and clearly took issue with some aspects of Japanese life. Which is his prerogative — and maybe I would have some of the same feelings if I were to live there — but not what I want to read. Maybe I’m just being crank. The Computer Scientist loved this book, and he’s actually been to Japan a few times.
I visited two other countries via books in October: France and Iran. Longtime bookconscious readers know I have a fascination with Iran; it’s a place with a rich culture and history, but its people have really lost out in the leadership lottery. One regime after another has made modern Iran hell for at least some of the people, all of the time. Politics aside, it’s a shame, because there is so much to love about Persian literature, art, and food. I’ve learned to love Iranian culture mostly through memoirs.
Maman’s Homesick Pie: A Persian Heart In an American Kitchen by Donia Bijan is a memoir deeply interested in Iran’s food. Bijan is a chef who knew growing up that cooking was her passion. Her parents, a doctor and a nurse who were both larger than life characters who worked tirelessly to help their patients, had to flee Iran at the time of the Revolution. In America, Bijan’s father was daunted by the prospect of becoming a doctor all over again in his 60′s and eventually returned to Iran to re-open his hospital. Her mother worked as a nurse in California and supported Bijan’s dream of training in France to become a chef.
The family’s stories are fascinating, and Bijan tells them well, while also examining her own path in light of her family history. Like other good memoirs, Maman’s Homesick Pie is much more than a family narrative. Bijan explores cultural identity, the role of women in her two countries, marriage, and finding one’s true calling in life.
The book did make me hungry; Bijan includes recipes, which I haven’t tried. She cooked for Bono and his wife when they visited her San Francisco with their baby many years ago. How cool is that? Her descriptions of French restaurant life are fascinating as well; her own story is sort of a memoir within a memoir.
Speaking of France, I revisited the charming apartment house brought to life by Muriel Barbery in The Elegance of the Hedgehog in her second novel, Gourmet Rhapsody. This book quietly grew on me. If you’ve read The Elegance of the Hedgehog, you may recall one of the residents of the Parisian building is a restaurant critic, an influential but arrogant man named Pierre Athens. As Gourmet Rhapsody opens, Monsieur Athens is dying, and he is maddened by the faint remembrance of a flavor he can’t quite identify.
Barbery cleverly tells the man’s life story through an interweaving of his own memories and the thoughts of his family, friends, and neighbors. Even a statue in his study weighs in, along with his favorite cat. Each chapter brings readers closer to discovering what Athens is trying to recall, of understanding his ego and the path of emotional destruction he has left in the wake of his hedonistic life. The shifting points of view are delightful; if the whole book were told in his voice, you’d want to toss it aside in in disgust.
I will say Barbery gives the man a way with words. Take for example this passage, in which he describes tasting sushi for the first time: “Yes, it is like a fabric: sashimi is velvet dust, verging on silk, or a bit of both, and the extraordinary alchemy of its gossamer essence allows it to preserve a milky density unknown even by clouds.” Or later, “Life exists only by virtue of the osmosis of words and facts, where the former encase the latter in ceremonial grace.”
In other words, he tells the truth (or his perception of it) and tells it slant. Towards the end, Athens declares, “The question is not one of eating, nor is it one of living; the question is knowing why.” I think that would make a marvelous philosophy dissertation topic. If I ever go back to school, I’m on it.
Another novel that takes a hard look at “knowing why” is When She Woke by Hillary Jordan, the author of Mudbound. This twist on The Scarlet Letter is set in a dystopian future America where conservative religious leaders have taken power in the wake of terror attacks and a rampant STD scourge that has left many women barren. Our heroine, Hannah, is convicted of having an abortion, refuses to name the man who got her pregnant (her mega-church pastor), and is sentenced to being a “red” — she is “chromed” or genetically altered to turn her skin red, which marks her as a murderer.
The book reads like a thriller, in which Hannah and a friend she meets in prison are rescued from a cultish religious vigilante group by another cultish group who run a sort of Underground Railroad to spirit women like them to Canada. Jordan makes it more emotionally complicated than straight up good versus evil though, as Hannah grows out of her sheltered upbringing into a thinking, questioning adult.
The people Hannah meets do occasionally veer into stock characters: her rescuers speak French, which it seems to me is a little too caricatured of sneering at American politics; a spoiled wealthy southern white man in a grand old house is a turncoat; an Episcopal priest representative of the “Via Media” offers Hannah shelter in a storm.
This is a small quibble though, and may be my own perspective. Overall, I couldn’t put down When She Woke. Jordan addresses important questions of personal conduct and public approbation, and the danger of dominant culture or even the government in expressing public sentiment. She also champions critical thinking and individual actions, and examines how morality and belief can morph into extremism, especially when people are scared, uneducated, or both. In fact, one of the important themes of When She Woke is that mature belief grows as much from questions as from accepted truths.
Collecting personal statements of belief for public reading, listening, and discussion, is the fascinating work of This I Believe.org. In October I read This I Believe II: The Personal Philosophies of Remarkable Men and Women, ahead of the What Do you Believe? event at Regina Library next week. First year students at Rivier read this book as part of their entry into college life, and the college Writing and Resource Center is co-sponsoring the event. I love the idea of a community read that has a writing component.
This I Believe II, like all of the organization’s books, is a collection of essays from all kinds of people — young, old, men, women, successful, struggling, famous, unknown — about their personal philosophies. The essays examine belief in everything from the Golden Rule to baking. I tried reading some of the essays aloud, but the Computer Scientist pointed out they are much better heard in the voices of the people who wrote them. You can listen or read on the website, or subscribe to the podcast.
Either way, it’s heartening to know that so many people have spent time considering their deeply held beliefs and writing them down, and thousands have shared those personal manifestos. Some of the beliefs are easy to understand, others are not. Some contradict each other. I made a list of favorites from this volume; I hope to re-read them and think about why those ideas resonated with me. Maybe I’ll write my own essay some day. It would probably start with “I believe in reading.”
Or maybe, “I believe in poetry.” I attended a talk on some themes in Shakespeare’s sonnets, which came after a screening of Answer This! and a Q&A with Professor Ralph Williams (who acted in the film) and director Christopher Farah. Prof. Williams told the audience that beauty and the ravages of time were much on the minds of Elizabethans, but that even as we live longer today, beauty can serve the same purposes: to perpetuate love, and to help us deal evil. Reading poetry is one of the best ways I know of unplugging from the world’s bad news; some of my favorite poets address what’s evil or unpleasant head on.
Maxine Kumin’s poems on torture, for example. Or, in her book The Kingdom of Ordinary Time, Marie Howe‘s poems that face inequality (“The Star Market,” “What We Would Give Up,” domestic violence (“Non-Violence” and “The Tree Fort”) and terrorism (“Non-violence 2″). She writes with searing beauty, she writes of horrible things; these are not mutually exclusive. I heard Howe on Fresh Air, where she addressed writing about grief and loss, and checked for her work at the library that night.
Howe’s poems on faith are some of my favorites. “Easter” imagines Jesus re-entering his own broken body: “And the whole body was too small. Imagine/ the sky trying to fit into a tunnel carved into a hill./ He came into it two ways:/ From the outside, as we step into a pair of pants./ And from the center — suddenly all at once.” Wow. Have you ever even tried to imagine this? I hadn’t.
“Prayer” may be the simplest, most direct explanation of the human tendency to avoid opening ourselves to the divine and mysterious I’ve read in any form. “The mystics say you are as close as my own breath/ Why do I flee from you?/ My days and nights pour through me like complaints/and become a story I forgot to tell.”
And “Annunciation,” from a sequence called “Poems From the Life of Mary” describes motherhood’s jolting, almost unbearable essence: “a tilting within myself;” Mary is “only able to endure it by being no one and so/ specifically myself I thought I’d die/from being loved like that.”
A poetry professor at Rivier had the library staff pull a variety of poetry books to keep handy on a cart for students. I had just finished Howe’s book and heard Prof. Williams discuss sonnets and I was hungry for more poetry. So I browsed the cart.
Also, it was the Thursday before Halloween (Thursdays already being slow in the library, due to something called Thirsty Thursday which, as the mother of future college students, I don’t want to think about.) I read a fantastic book, Linda Pastan‘s Traveling Light, in one sitting. I love this book, I cannot believe I’ve made it to this point in my life without reading Linda Pastan, I want to go back and read every single poems she’s ever written.
Ever have that kind of reaction to an author? I scribbled notes as I read, marking both sides of a sheet of scrap paper at the reference desk. Lines I loved. Poems that struck me.
Such as: “In the end we are no more than our own stories:/ mine a few brief passages in the Book,/no further trace of plot or dialogue” from a poem called “Eve on Her Deathbed.” The poem goes on to trace Eve’s remembrances.
“Lilacs,” blew me away in part because a poem I was working on last week includes lilacs, as does another poem of mine, “Remembering Lilacs.” Pastan writes more beautifully what I know to be true of these flowers: “their leaves as heart-shaped/as memory itself.”
Pastan looks to the color of spring with both hope and bittersweet acceptance of time and its ravages of beauty in “April.” “A whole new freshman class/ of leaves has arrived/ on the dark twisted branches/ we call our woods, turning/ green now — color of/ anticipation. In my 76th year,/ I know what time and weather/ will do to every leaf.”
She takes a patiently humorous view of age in “Q & A” — a student in the poem asks “Did you write/your Emily Dickinson poem/because you like her work,/ or did you know her personally?” and Pastan writes of the audience’s laughter, the girl’s embarrassment, and her own response: “Surprise, like love, can catch/ our better selves unawares./ ‘I’ve visited her house,’ I said./ ‘I may have met her in my dreams.’”
I could go on and on — my notes include admiration for Pastan’s bold use of rhyme in “Bronze Bells of Autumn” and “Ash.” For the questions she opens up in “In the Har-Poen Tea Garden,” and “The Flood, 2005.” For the gorgeous “In the Forest,” which tells why poetry heals a broken world, because it gives us words to “Praise what is left.” My advice? Find this book and read it.
Tonight I will no doubt stay up too late, because I’m reading one of those novels I wish I could actually be in, even though it’s full of war and hardship: The Dovekeepers by Alice Hoffman. I’ve written about Hoffman’s ability to create characters I’d like to know before: her book The Red Garden was one of my favorite reads last year.
Doverkeepers is a page-turning saga. It’s the story of several women who have made their ways to Masada around 71 C.E., when the Romans have destroyed the Temple and Jews have fled Jerusalem. Hoffman tells each woman’s story, weaving their lives together so that the reader feels a part of the circle. As in many of her other books, there is a magical aspect to the story, but this is also a historical novel and there is an incredible amount of rich sensory detail that makes the time and place come alive.
I received this book as a review copy before I left the bookstore, and the word was that this is Hoffman’s “big book.” It certainly goes to the heart of many ideas present in other books of hers that I’ve read, with a depth and grace that surpasses her earlier work. That said, I haven’t read all of her books. Identity, family, faith, transformation, love — this book explores Big Ideas even as Hoffman tells stories that entrance not only for their imaginative power, but the sense of Truth in the voices of these women.
If I had to boil down what The Dovekeepers is about, I’d say it’s the story of being a woman. Together the protagonists represent a composite of all the roles women have filled over the centuries and in many ways still do, even in a world far different than that of first century Judea. Well, hang on; terrorism, violence, inequality, poverty, religious intolerance, culture wars, famine, drought and flooding, environmental degradation, invasions, world powers dominating smaller nations with their military and economic might, gender stereotyping, fear for the future. Maybe things aren’t so different in some ways.
Speaking of things that are the same: it’s November, so I am NaNoWriMo-ing. I’ve done this before (four times, in fact) but took last year off. I wasn’t going to try to squeeze writing 50,000 words in a month into my life this year either, but two things changed my mind. First, I wrote about NaNoWriMo over at my other blog and remembered all the reasons it’s brilliant. Second, I read this article on simplifying. I cut some RSS feeds from my Google Reader, and decided there were other ways I could trim excess from my schedule.
Plus, I had some time yesterday evening, between a staff meeting and my reference desk shift, to write. So I dove in and came up for air 5,057 words later. I’m off and writing. It’s exhilarating to be working on a big messy project, when I usually work in the tight constraints of line breaks and poetic forms.
The Computer Scientist started reading a large messy book recently, or so it appears to an outside observer: House of Leaves by Mark Z. Danielewski. He’d been on a reading sabbatical, with coaching and other things demanding more of his time. Stay tuned. He did tell me that the Atlantic article on the NCAA by Taylor Branch was one of the best pieces of nonfiction writing he’d read in a long time.
Teen the Younger says the best thing she read in October was the rest of The Giver, by Lois Lowry, which she pronounced ”intense.” She told me that the novel went along at a steady pace and right near the end, picked up and got a lot more exciting. She’s currently reading volume one of The Complete Sherlock Holmes.
What’s next for me? Hooksett Library book group is reading Loving Frank, and I have a collection of short stories about libraries, In the Stacks, which I’d like to read soon. And, I’m reading Migrations, a poetry collection by Anne Cluysenaar published by Cinnamon Press. Happy reading!

Wednesday, November 2, 2011

Sensing the beauty of China

  Chancellor of the University of Sydney and governor of New South Wales Marie Bashir has had an enduring fascination with the country since she was a child. Zhang Yue and Guo Shuhan report.


A group of 200 Chinese students in graduation gowns took turns stepping onto the stage to accept their degrees from Marie Bashir, chancellor of the University of Sydney and governor of New South Wales, at a recent graduation ceremony exclusively for Chinese graduates and their families.
"When Ms Marie Bashir held my hand firmly, looked into my eyes and said my name I suddenly felt that the moment didn't end my student life in Sydney but instead maintained my connection with the country," says Liu Biwei, a 25-year-old Sydney University graduate who earned her master's degree in commerce
The annual event has become one of Bashir's most cherished activities since 2007, when she assumed her post as chancellor.
She says it provides her with the opportunity to keep in touch with youngsters in China, a country she was curious about in her childhood and connected to 37 years ago.
Bashir's knowledge about China began with her parents.
"Although my parents had never been to China, they were interested in Chinese arts. My family has had a bunch of traditional Chinese handicrafts and embroideries since my childhood, like bed sheets, tablecloths and pillows," she says.
"From them, I could sense the beauty of China."
Bashir has spent most of her life in medicine, which is a family tradition. After graduating from Sydney University, she operated the Rivendell Unit in Sydney for children with emotional and psychiatric problems in the 1970s.
As her medical career progressed, her knowledge about China also grew from Chinese magazines. One of the terms she learned from these was the "barefoot doctors", a term that came from southern China. It refers to farmers who received basic medical training and brought healthcare to rural villages where most urban doctors would not consider settling. This impressed her.
"That was something hard for me to imagine as a medical student. I wanted to see how they took immunization and public health to the furthest areas of the provinces. So I decided to go and see for myself," she says.
Her wish to visit China came true in 1974, when she and her aunt took a flight to Hong Kong and then spent three weeks in Guangzhou, Shanghai and Beijing.
As one of the first batch of Australian visitors to China, she says the trip struck her greatly.
"I got a chance to see how the barefoot doctors were taking immunization and public health to rural villages," she says. Once there, she was not able to sleep and found herself walking through the streets at night.
"I was drawn to people's faces, mothers with babies on their backs, those wonderful faces," she recalls. "So much hardship and poverty but so much love for their children. Though the kids were comparatively thin and short due to the lack of food at that time, there was joy and hope on their faces that you could sense."
It was also during that visit that she was amazed by traditional Chinese medical treatments in rural areas, where brain tumors were removed with the assistance of acupuncture, which was used to sedate people who did not have anesthetics.
In 1984, she and her family were invited to attend the 35th anniversary of the founding of the People's Republic of China, held in Beijing.
"We were given a place to stand on Tian'anmen Square with other Australians and saw an incredible procession and festivities," she says. "People looked healthier, and there was great joy and passion on their faces. The progress is incredible."
Since then, Bashir has taken her family to China many times. Her visits to China during the 1980s renewed her impression of progress, especially when she and her aunt took a ride along the Yangtze River, visiting Hubei's provincial capital Wuhan, one of her favorite cities.
Her return to China several years later led to her acquaintance with some famous individuals.
Bashir was introduced to George Hatem (1910-1988), an American doctor who had worked in China since the 1930s. Hatem also introduced Bashir to one of the most famous figures of 20th century China, Madame Sun Yat-sen, one of the three famous Soong sisters.
"She was warm and lovely and expansive, and I was rather in awe of her," Bashir admits.
In September, Bashir attended the celebration for the 100th anniversary of the 1911 Revolution - the civil war led by Sun Yat-sen, which overthrew the Qing Dynasty (1644-1911) - held by Chinese associations in Sydney.
"I admire the Chinese people's love of learning, their diligence. So much of what they do and have created has come about because of meticulous attention to detail: their calligraphy, pen etchings, porcelain. And their respect for teachers and education - I applaud all of that."

Monday, October 31, 2011

Paying Amazon's bounty for beauty, life and hope

  LUIS Garcia is close to tears. For three days, he has guided eight international journalists through a tract of Amazon so thick with wildlife that experts are yet to fully catalogue its riches. At a small Ecuadorean airport, Garcia gives a final, wet-eyed pitch on the threatened Yasuni National Park. Then, as he speaks, they appear: the flashy watches, slick sneakers and logo-stitched chambray shirts of the oil industry.

In Coca, an industrial smudge of a town on the Amazon's western edge, two types of passengers use the airport. One is oil executives - Spanish, Chinese, American and South American corporates extracting, or eager to extract, the heavy crude beneath the emerald forest. The other is eco-tourists: birdwatchers and backpackers sporting expensive waterproofs and zip-off trousers, headed to the biodiversity haven of the Yasuni. Two industries feeding from the Amazon; but only one is likely to prevail.

Ecuador, and the wider international community, faces a quandary in the Yasuni. It is, scientists believe, the most species-rich spot in the western hemisphere. But an almost irresistible resource lies untapped in the park's underbelly: one-fifth of Ecuador's oil. To solve this dilemma, this poor South American nation has come up with a unique idea that, if successful, could change the way the world deals with its most precious places and provide a concrete way to reduce carbon pollution in developing nations.

Friday, October 28, 2011

Cooper brings ‘Beauty and the Beast’ to life

  While growing up watching Walt Disney’s “tale as old as time,” youngsters in the cast of “Beauty and the Beast” never dreamed they’d be performing one of the stories a few years later.
But here they are, ready to present beloved fairy tale “Beauty and the Beast,” a present day musical, at John Cooper School Nov. 17-20.
 

        The highly regarded Joseph DeMonico is directing.
“It’s a timeless story that fits any generation,” DeMonico said in a press release. “It shares the importance of looking beyond the external to see what’s inside, staying true to who you are.”
As you recall, it’s about a young girl, Belle, caught plucking roses from the garden of a hideous beast who seizes the girl and demands a horrifying promise to spare her his revenge.
The girl remains true to herself by keeping her promise. Gradually, she comes to love the beast for what he is, despite his repugnant countenance. True to the form of most fairy tales, it concludes with a happily-ever-after ending.
Cooper’s cast in this fall musical includes Jesse Bates as Beast; Caitlin Finnie as Belle; and Alessandro Portela as Gaston, a rude, vile character who wishes to take Belle as his wife, based solely upon her beauty. Other students in major roles are David Taylor as Belle’s father, Maurice; and Alec Udell as Gaston’s rascally associate, LeFou.
Others capably take on the tasks of bringing inanimate entities to life, the director said.
Derek Tam plays a French maitre d’ who becomes a candelabra; Annabelle Cousins goes from being Babette to becoming a feather duster; Caroline Davis transforms from Mrs. Potts into a teapot; with Lauren Spearman becoming “Chip,” a teacup; Jeremy Mani turns into a mantle clock, and Jenny Bates becomes a wardrobe.
These roles are particularly challenging because the actors play human beings who are servants before abruptly becoming energetic heretofore lifeless utility pieces.
Other students portray flatware, a dust pail, egg timer, plates, and napkins. They transform themselves into characters who speak, sing, and dance.
A cadre of JCS seniors provides comedy through being Silly Girls, while Jack Kite narrates the story.
A plethora of sparkling dancing and singing of cherished songs is anticipated to please the youngest fans and their parents as well.
A carefully chosen technical crew adds more polish to the production.
“Beauty and the Beast” will be performed Nov. 17-19 at 7 p.m., with 2 p.m. matinees on Nov. 19-20.
Shows are in the Cooper Performing Arts Center. Tickets cost $15, with students and the elderly paying $10. They are available on line at www.coopertickets.org., according to Deb Spiess, Director of JCS Marketing and Communications. The school can be reached at 281-367-0900.
Another huge Cooper event is the Seventh Annual Signature Authors Series, in the planning stage by The Cooper School Fine Arts Council for close to a year.
The luncheon is at The Woodlands Waterway Marriott Hotel Nov. 11, with committee member Lisa Simms coordinating the visiting authors’ segment of the series.
Internationally acclaimed author Candice Bushnell joins luminaries from the past as the keynote speaker. She authored “Sex and the City” stories among other writings.
As in the past, the series highlights local authors in a diversified list from poetry to cookbooks, to chicanery in the world of high finance. There’s also an inspirational personal account from cancer survivor Jan de Chambrier, an Artist Teacher of Opera Studies at Rice’s Shepherd School of Music, and renowned pianist.
Another intriguing book contains photographs and stories of the outdoor sculptures that dot landscapes in The Woodlands’ public places.
Authors will be present to sell and autograph their books.
Luncheon tickets cost $100 each, with proceeds going to several literacy endeavors as well as to special events at the school.
Recently added to the list of local authors who will be present is Lt. Ronald Wizinsky, retired from the Houston Police Department. His nonfiction volume is entitled “Our Sixth Sense — Using Common Police Knowledge to Analyze Crime Data.” He is affiliated with the FBI National Academy, and is a recognized authority on crime analysis.
For more information please contact the Cooper sources cited above.
“A Night with Buddy Jewell and His Trio” comes to downtown Conroe’s Crighton Theatre Saturday eve at 7:30.
It’s pretty impressive that Jewell’s very first album on Columbia Records was certified gold, and earned two back-to-back top five hits.
He’s been nominated for at least three major country music honors, including the Country Music Awards. Call the box office at 936-441-7469 to reserve. Larry Martin Entertainment Group of The Woodlands presents the show. It is sponsored by the law office of L. Clay-Jackson, P.L.L.C., with Joshua Zientek.

Wednesday, October 26, 2011

Ballerina reveals beauty of surfing to China


(Reuters) - A ballerina "danced across the sea" to introduce professional surfing to China on Wednesday.
Darci Liu received a wildcard for the first event held in her homeland by the Association of Surfing Professionals, and she was swarmed by spectators as she emerged from the water after an opening round defeat by San Diego's Jennifer Smith.
"I feel very grateful and very proud to have had the chance to surf here and to compete against a champion like Jennifer," Liu told Reuters. "She is the best surfer in the world and this is the biggest day of my life.
"I want more people in China to know about surfing and this is the start. It is a graceful and beautiful sport, it is dancing across the sea.
"I have not been surfing very long so I feel like the baby of the event, but the baby is very excited. It's why I have a smile on my face that will last a long time."
Liu studied ballet at the Hubei Provincial Art School before dancing professionally in Guangdong in 2006. It was only the following year that Liu, from Hainan Island, was encouraged by her Californian husband to catch her first wave.
She created a slice of history here by becoming the first Chinese surfer to compete in an ASP event -- the Swatch Girls Pro China is doubling as the women's longboard world championship.
"These surfers will be remembered as pioneers," said Brodie Carr, the Association of Surfing Professionals chief executive. "We thought China was an impossible place for us to enter, but we've done it. We're here and this is just the beginning.
"China is a powerful athletic country, a vast country and marketplace with a potential billion-strong audience for us.
"We want to push boundaries, we want to expand. We've entered a new frontier. This is a landmark day that we'll be looking back on for years to come."
Most competitors, including two-times world champion Smith, were completely unaware China had surf until the venue was announced this year. The opening ceremony was a lavish affair with dancing, singing and fireworks.
Carr said more surfing events for Hainan Island, a lush, palm tree-lined area being promoted as the Hawaii of Asia, were in the pipeline.
The mayor of Wanning said Liu's debut had helped put Hainan Island on the map of world surfing.
"China has open arms to surfing from this day," he said. "We want new tourists to come to beautiful and dynamic Wanning.
"We have a healthy, passionate and dynamic coastal location and we want to popularise surfing in China."